[introspectiveme]

I think I'm in love with someone. This person is a very good friend. They trust me very much and respect me too, BUT they are already in love with someone else very deeply. I just wish for this person's happiness, so I'm not gonna make things awkward and risk harming this great friendship we have. This person has made it clear to me that there's only one person in their life and it's not me.

Things have changed for me because of this, I look forward to getting up and meeting my 'friend', I also try to look presentable, which is something I haven't cared about in a long while. I'm taking better care of myself. I also feel like I have a good friend that cares about me, which is something I've always wanted.

At the same time, I worry too much about 'losing' this friend. Two or three days without contact makes me feel so bad. I have accepted the fact that it's ok as long as I can be friends with this person, no matter what.

You can love someone secretly and never tell them or anyone else about it, right?

These feelings may be more common than you think. I have experienced similar feelings more than once. I just enjoyed the friendship/didn't worry about losing them. In many cases, it was just a brief phase (one or two months) anyways. I never regretted not telling them how intensely I felt. I even wonder if I felt this way simply because I was "swinging" from depression into an up (euphoric) phase in my life.
I think it is a good practice to tell my husband, friends and family how much I appreciate them on a regular basis. So I would just tell him/her how happy their friendship makes you feel but totally respect the relationship that they already have. Your friend is blessed to be in love and have a friend like you. Friends make our lives wonderful!

[BreakForTheLight]

You say your friend is in love with someone else - is this their partner?

I've been in this situation where at first it felt positive. Just like you said, looking forward to seeing this person again, being happy to go to work, taking better care of myself, taking more of an interest in what I looked like when I was going to see them.....

But eventually it turned into frustration.
The difference in our situations might be that this person is your friend and I only thought the person I liked was my friend. But I feel so much better now that person is no longer in my life.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm sure this happens to a lot of people.. Hope it isn't too much of a struggle. You can still be friends with that person.

[introspectiveme]

Originally Posted by Hopingtrying

These feelings may be more common than you think. I have experienced similar feelings more than once. I just enjoyed the friendship/didn't worry about losing them. In many cases, it was just a brief phase (one or two months) anyways. I never regretted not telling them how intensely I felt. I even wonder if I felt this way simply because I was "swinging" from depression into an up (euphoric) phase in my life.
I think it is a good practice to tell my husband, friends and family how much I appreciate them on a regular basis. So I would just tell him/her how happy their friendship makes you feel but totally respect the relationship that they already have. Your friend is blessed to be in love and have a friend like you. Friends make our lives wonderful!

Thank you so much. I just hope this never ends.

[introspectiveme]

Originally Posted by BreakForTheLight

You say your friend is in love with someone else - is this their partner?

I've been in this situation where at first it felt positive. Just like you said, looking forward to seeing this person again, being happy to go to work, taking better care of myself, taking more of an interest in what I looked like when I was going to see them.....

But eventually it turned into frustration.
The difference in our situations might be that this person is your friend and I only thought the person I liked was my friend. But I feel so much better now that person is no longer in my life.

Partner, yes but not married

I don't know what will happen in my case but i am a very sincerely 'in friendship' with this person. I am very happy to be around my friend.

[introspectiveme]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm sure this happens to a lot of people.. Hope it isn't too much of a struggle. You can still be friends with that person.

Friendship with this person is very important, yes.

Before this i felt like an alien and that i could never connect to people who don't have similar interests and stuff. Actually i like this person cause they're very different.

[introspectiveme]

Originally Posted by Lil1scoop

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Hold onto your friend. True friends are very hard to come by. Tell them you love them, if you do. Where I come from, friends last much longer than 2 or 3 months.

Its already lasted longer than that and i hope it never ends. I am looking for a way to tell them jow much our friendship means without making things weird