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Dec 19, 2016, 05:47 PM
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marcia affair
Hi, my girlfriend has resumed steady contact with a past boyfriend. Not sexual that I know of but now into daily contact. She has started keeping secrets about it . . Says that I can't control her friends? He is married and cheated on his wife with her and now wants to resume this affair (apparently so does she). I would like to save our relationship- how do I do this? |
 Lost_in_the_woods, Shazerac, winter4me
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Dec 19, 2016, 06:02 PM
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I am not sure you do, or should. It is true that you cannot, and should not control her friends/others....it doesn't sound as though she wants to be in a settled relationship.
Unless you (& she) are comfortable not being exclusive...
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Dec 19, 2016, 10:31 PM
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 Sorry you are going through this. There really isn't anything you can do. All you can do is decide whether or not you want you want to be in a relationship with a girl who is hanging around with a married man.
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#4
Dec 19, 2016, 10:48 PM
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I'm sorry dirtdancer...I would have to say break it off with her until she makes a decision on what the heck she wants..its not fair to do this to you and you can't LET her do it....why would you lower yourself to someone who wants to cross boundries of communicating inappropriately (I assume) with a married man?
I'm so sorry. |
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#5
Dec 20, 2016, 01:58 AM
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She's contemplating messing with a married man when she herself is in a relationship.
Please move on from her. You deserve better! |
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Dec 20, 2016, 04:47 AM
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She is bad news
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#7
Dec 20, 2016, 05:27 AM
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Trust and respect are essential for a good relationship; you have neither with her. End it with her.
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The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. anonymous |
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#8
Dec 20, 2016, 06:00 AM
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totally agree with everyonelse plenty of fish in the sea
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#9
Dec 20, 2016, 04:14 PM
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Why would you even want to stay with her?
She clearly does not respect the sanctity of marriage (as she's been his mistress before), so what chance is there of her remaining faithful to you? I'd cut my losses and run, find a girl with integrity, who is loyal and trustworthy. |
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#10
Dec 20, 2016, 06:53 PM
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Saying "you can't control my friends" is a cold statement. When things seem cold and apathetic, it's time to leave.
It's not about whether the statement is true or not, it's about what's behind it - "stay away from me". Even if it's not at all that way, it's somewhat that way, and it can definitely be better. You deserve better. |
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Dec 20, 2016, 08:06 PM
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If she is not being open and honest with you your relationship has big problems.
You could try couples counselling if you both want to work on the relationship. |
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#12
Dec 20, 2016, 08:08 PM
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I say move on.
When you set out on a new relationship it would be a good idea to converse about expectations including the deal breakers. |
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