Triangulation

I don't even know where to start. My dad is being a jerk. I'm 23 and on ssi, food stamps and mainecare (medicaid in maine). My dad and stepmom want me to check in kinda and stuff. I live on my own with my small dog and cat. I talk on the phone a lot and am online quite often as well. If I go out for any length of time I should tell him all the details, when I'm going/coming, where, what, etc. It's really pissing me off. He says it's because he's worried. My mother thinks it's a control issue. I don't know what to do because I'm visually impaired and rely on them for transportation quite often, etc. It really sucks. I wanna tell him and my stepmom off; they have their own biz which I "help" with and they "help" with the rent by 100 bucks, so that I can afford it and it's somewhere safe; which sadly cannot be said about subsidized housing. I'm on the list for section 8 but vouchers for that are years away which is totally ridiculous. Can anyone help? He says I'm not comprehending things right as far as they'll say it and I interpret or hear something totally different or "what I want to hear." He told me that I'm not doing anything to help myself or listening to the people who are trying to help me. I'm just getting mad at everyone for whatever. The conversation didn't end on a good note: you're just making me mad and you need to go to sleep so bye." I'm so pissed off being accussed of %#@&#! and having to defend myself all the time. My woes are always related to my mom also... ridiculous. And I need to tell her off or get her out of my life or so I'm told by my dad and stepmom. I know there's more but not right now.....

Venting is good....

just asking... cause I have a 22 year old son that I worry about.. that it's good to have someone in your life that does worry and care about you...

I can see where having to rely on someone for transportation must be grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.. have had to do that too....
And being "stuck" in the middle where your dad and mom - well your dad blaming everything on your mom is also very difficult...

The part about " you aren't doing anything to help yourself" and "listening to people that are trying to help you"?

Did he tell you what he thought you should do?

And what "people" are you not listening to that would help you? and what are they suggesting?

Maybe you could say more about that - it might help us to understand more of what they are thinking and where the "mis-connect" is happening between you guys...

In the meantime... ((((hugs))...

He said I'm not listening to all of the people who have given me advice like the nurse at the psych program I was in or the pdoc supposedly said I need to have more physical activity and just do things I guess.... I can't really think of anything else right now...other issues right now; just gotta write more and somewhere....

would envolvement with a MH supportgroup help, he maybe just trying to be a parent caring about his child

I honestly don't know but kinda lean towards no. His opinion of any professional I see at some time or another unless he agrees with them entirely; he'll say they're a quack because..... whatever.... He doesn't think highly of anyone in the mental health field. Maybe he is just being a father but sometimes it's so damn frustrating. And lately I feel like I'm at my wits end so I'll not talk to him and then I wil and just things don't seem to be going the way I want to sometimes. Sometimes we have better communciation face to face eventhough it's more stressful and heated; but, atleast sometimes I can see what he's saying better and read him better someitmes

Sadly enough it sounds as though he cares about you and that he is only trying to make sure your are safe..... and yet by doing this (the wrong way) he is pushing you away.

I agree with Rhapsody. It seems the more he is trying to show you that he cares and loves about you, he is pushing you away. Could you write a note to him and just leave it somewhere he would find it?

Good luck

Take gentle care,
Dee