constant nagging

I don't know where to begin. I guess today is best. I told my husband I don't love him anymore. He criticizes everything I do....every single day. I don't do laundry right, I leave a cup in the bedroom, I left a light on, didn't lock car door under the garage, used wrong spoon to cook, put toilet paper on wrong, folded towels wrong. I drive bad. List goes on and on. This goes on every day. We argue about something at least once a day. He constantly calls me lazy. I'm just so frustrated. Is it me or is something wrong with him? What should I do?

I wish I had a good suggestion. I don't.

He's probably not going to change.

If you don't have a job, try to get one. Try and become independent of him.

He is probably trying to get control in part of his life and this is the only way he knows how. He can change but he has to see the problem and want to change. It's hare to keep a marriage going when one of the people finds fault with everything the other one does. Maybe see if he will go to marriage counseling.

Marriage counseling seems like a good solution.. it must be really hard to live a normal life when your own husband is not showing any kind of support

He sounds OCD.

Seriously.

My ex husband was OCD and went many years undiagnosed until he had a proper diagnosis.

I could never understand why the way I packed the dishwasher away wasn't right as everything had to be aligned strategically, spoons one way, forks another.

I wasn't allowed to fold laundry as the shirts weren't placed at 90 degrees.

I do realise it wasn't my ex trying to be mean. He just had these tendencies.

With his OCD tendencies there were things I did do. He couldn't handle things being out of place, like cups, so I'd make sure I had this in the dishwasher, just as an example.

It was sort of a compromise for us both meeting each other half way.

So how did I cope? We worked on an arrangement that the things that irked his OCD tendencies he had to do or not complain about the way I did it. He got to aligned the forks one way the knives another way; he folded the laundry etc.

It's not you! I think if those were your biggest faults, you'd be a pretty awesome partner! In the grand scheme of things, those things are non-issues and not something to be complained about. I'm sorry you're unappreciated. Hugs.

what did he say when you told him you don't love him anymore?
Also is he happy at his job? Has he always been like this or does it happen more in times of stress?

My husband gets like that when he has a lot of work stress. I have wondered if he might have some mild OCD considering some of the things he gets annoyed with. I have made some progress talking to him about it when things are calm, and it is helping. I've also started reminding him of those discussions when he starts up. I ask him if it is really about whatever he is nagging about or if it's because he had a crappy day at work. That has helped some as well.

Oh Kitka, I feel you, I'm going through the same thing, it's gotten to the point where if I even open my mouth he is telling me to be quiet and that I talk to much before I even get the words out, what was his reaction to you saying you don't love him anymore, does he ever back down and accept he is treating you badly??