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Dec 22, 2016, 03:40 PM
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***DISCLAIMER*** - Not looking for suggestions to change my toxic relationship, but rather just want to vent
H hasn't been to work all week. He's been too into his video game to leave the house. I sent a message to H about whether he was at work and he sent me a frowny face. Day 3 of not working. Then he tells me "I've been looking for a temp job." Okay here we go again. I say "What kind?" He goes "Leaving options open. There's a couple of restaurants looking for cooks and asst cooks. Might be time to learn something new." Great! You'll go and work at a restaurant with crappy hours probably making minimum wage. Meanwhile you're not going to a job you already have so that you can look for a job that you want to have to get out of a job you just said a few weeks ago you really like but now they've cut your commission (the part that you never should have been getting in the first place!) and you think you need to go somewhere else. What happened to this sales rep job you were psyched about a week ago? Are you looking for a temp job between this one and that one which you swear you are going to get?? For some reason you can't eke out another month or two at this job if you are so sure you're going to get this other one ? Every time he wants to look for another job, he needs to take a week off of work without pay to spend 10 minutes a day looking at Craigslist ads for jobs that he wont' spend the time filling out paperwork for! He even had the nerve to send me a message yesterday asking if I'd stop by his work and pick up his check for him since they seem to be the last place on earth that doesn't direct deposit!! There was no way I was doing that! I'm not lying to everyone telling them you're sick when you simply don't want to work. I'm sure as hell not going out of my way to get your check when all you are doing is sitting at home drinking and playing video games.If you can't get yourself to work then I guess you won't get your check! Last edited by Mapper; Dec 22, 2016 at 04:13 PM. |
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#2
Dec 22, 2016, 03:43 PM
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Mapper, I see nothing but negative posts about your husband. Can you tell me why you're still with him? From how you write about him, you seem to really dislike him. Maybe it's time to leave.
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Dec 22, 2016, 03:48 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 03:51 PM
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Mapper your posts qualify as "here we go again." Instead of continually focusing on what your husband is doing or not doing ...stand up, walk in the bathroom, look yourself in the eye and ask "what is going on with me that I am willing to accept ongoing atrocious behavior?"
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Dec 22, 2016, 03:54 PM
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Eat a live frog for breakfast every morning and nothing worse can happen to you that day! "Ask yourself whether the dream of heaven and greatness should be left waiting for us in our graves - or whether it should be ours here and now and on this earth.” Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged Bipolar type 2 rapid cycling DX 2013 - Seroquel 100 Celexa 20 mg Xanax .5 mg prn Modafanil 100 mg
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Dec 22, 2016, 03:54 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 04:14 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 04:19 PM
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Eat a live frog for breakfast every morning and nothing worse can happen to you that day! "Ask yourself whether the dream of heaven and greatness should be left waiting for us in our graves - or whether it should be ours here and now and on this earth.” Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged Bipolar type 2 rapid cycling DX 2013 - Seroquel 100 Celexa 20 mg Xanax .5 mg prn Modafanil 100 mg
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Dec 22, 2016, 04:20 PM
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Your husband sounds depressed to me. Also his alcohol consumption perhaps suggests he might have substance abuse issue. I thiknk he is in a bad place mentally
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Dec 22, 2016, 04:21 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 04:36 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 04:45 PM
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I wonder if mappers mother knows how bad things are does she insist they stay together because she paid for it? |
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Dec 22, 2016, 05:12 PM
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Sounds more like you stay out of spite than for better or worse.
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Dec 22, 2016, 05:29 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 05:31 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 05:39 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 05:49 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 06:01 PM
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Nothing happens until the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change. ~Arthur Burt
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Dec 22, 2016, 06:20 PM
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Dec 22, 2016, 06:40 PM
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Sounds like he has mental illness....is he being treated for mental illness? That could be a serious help if he would get some help. But, not working...he may not have coverage to go
 but there are free clinics (people say that all the time).
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Dec 22, 2016, 08:50 PM
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I think at your age you can do what you want.
I started all over at 48. And am happily married at 50. You might be missing finding right guys staying with wrong one. |
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Dec 22, 2016, 08:55 PM
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I read your other post about his girlfriend doing his resume. Your marriage has big problems. It's going to hit the fan eventually.
You have his debt with or without him. Other people don't think about you or care about you (even your own mother) as much as you think. They will handle anything that happens. You are stressed out with him, getting rid of him won't be any more stressful. I have had a marriage with some big problems, but we have raised three kids together, plus he is a great man and father. What is good about your husband? What does he do to enrich your life?
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