[Marilyn2016]

So, it looks like I'm back on PC, after a two year relationship and marriage of six months. After immigration paperwork to bring over my fiance, after working non-stop to support us. After feeling worthless and useless, and watching my partner quit drinking, and then pick it up again toward the end. Back after fights and tolerating someone who is mentally unstable, while I take meds everyday like clockwork. Back to PC to stay sane, to find support, and to convince myself that the world has not just ended. He left yesterday morning to fly home to Europe, and I am sad I may never see him again, even after all of this hardship. I hope I can turn this around and make myself smile again. I miss him. I miss us. And at the same time all the stress of being with him and supporting him has melted away.

Time heals...right?

[Erebos]

I am so sorry, everything your feeling is perfectly normal, you made a huge investment, more than most, in trying to make things work.
It will 're-play over and over, the end of a relationship is no different to the grieving process. Let that happen, don't try and give yourself a time frame, or punish yourself for whatever your feeling.
It will gradually get better, In the meantime, be kind to yourself, invest in you and the things that make you feel good.
Take care.

[areenhaque26]

Originally Posted by Marilyn2016

So, it looks like I'm back on PC, after a two year relationship and marriage of six months. After immigration paperwork to bring over my fiance, after working non-stop to support us. After feeling worthless and useless, and watching my partner quit drinking, and then pick it up again toward the end. Back after fights and tolerating someone who is mentally unstable, while I take meds everyday like clockwork. Back to PC to stay sane, to find support, and to convince myself that the world has not just ended. He left yesterday morning to fly home to Europe, and I am sad I may never see him again, even after all of this hardship. I hope I can turn this around and make myself smile again. I miss him. I miss us. And at the same time all the stress of being with him and supporting him has melted away.

Time heals...right?

Yes it does. Time heals everything. The best thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. Don't keep it pent up inside of you. It's okay to miss him and miss the things you guys did. Give yourself as much time as you need to emotionally let go of him because as long as you're still emotionally attached you won't be able to move forward. Once you're done grieving then focus on yourself for a while- do the things you weren't able to because of your martial situation and learn to relive life (most of us forget how to live when we get married because we make our spouse our priority and in the process we lose ourselves to anonymity. We lose that connection with ourselves)

Watch when you are completely healed from this, everything will be okay. It's an effort you have to make consciously. It'll be super hard in the beginning but as time will go by it'll get easier.

Best of luck

[Vert]

So sorry, I know exactly how you feel. Some day's will be easier than others but one thing I promise is that in the end you will be ok and happy again. Right now it feels like the time is dragging, even going backward, I'm sure. I'm in the same boat We got to keep our heads up and keep ourselves busy. Your stronger than you think, take care of yourself

[AutumnLeaves65]

I am so sorry for what you've been having to deal with! Please know that you are NOT alone. I understand your pain. I really do. I hope you can find comfort here as I am doing the same thing with my situation