[FallenAngel454]

Hi everyone, I have been online dating this guy for almost 6 months but we plan on meeting when he finishes high school (I'm already graduated). However, it just feels like that "spark" is gone.

I love him very much and I show him all the time but lately, he has been absent. He has been sick since Friday but he has been absent even before Friday. He barely texts me and we barely have any sexual interaction.

We talk on the phone every night for 1-2 hours but it just feels like he is either losing interest or just doesn't want to wait to meet me in the future. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and how he has never met anyone like me, also that he wants to have a family with me in the future.

He tells all his friends and family about me to. But I don't know, I just feel lonely even though he and I talk a lot on the phone and all. We have YouTube dates where we both watch a video together and these are fun. Still, it just feels like he is drifting farther and farther away.

He and I agreed to never separate no matter what challenges we go through. But from the information I've given, do you foresee a breakup? Do you think we can make it work until we can see each other? I'm really hoping we can because the last thing I need right now is to lose him after everything else I'm going through in life. Thanks for your help

Its typical in any relationship to have a honeymoon period that cools off at some point.

I think that you could make it work. Perhaps you're talking to each other too much? Maybe you need to give each other some distance? As in distance makes the heart grow fonder?

[divine1966]

It is hard to sustain interest without actually meetings a person. I hope you understand that those aren't actual dates and it's not actual sexual interaction. I think it's normal to start losing interest since the only interaction you have is a phone and a computer screen. Also it's very time consuming. He might be busy.

Are you doing anything besides being online? You graduated high school at 16, it's impressive. Do you work? Are you in college? Do you have hobbies? I dont think it's healthy to be that much online

[ReptileInYourHead]

Hey fallenangel.

Something is missing.

Went back and read some of your other posts. There was a lot of good advice given by members. I'm not religious but "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is solid relationship advice.

also, you are awfully young to claim you will be with a person forever, no matter what. It's a nice thought but sounds more like another safety net.
You are in a psych forum for a reason, use this opportunity to take an honest look at how and why you build relationships with these guys.

You have support here.

[Anrea]

He isn't drifting away. You are. And, your letting yourself, because things don't seem as exciting to you.

I agree with Golden Waves. The newness is wearing off. It always does. What keeps people together is more then love.

I hope if you break up with him - something I don't think he is expecting - you make sure he knows, it wasn't him. You're both just young.

It is mature to understand when you are too young to say forever.

Just my opinion. Good luck to you both.

[divine1966]

I suggest you dont tell people you'll be with them forever until you actually met them. It just doesn't work this way