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Old Feb 15, 2017, 09:17 PM
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I find it a little troubling that you say you're interested in her yet you've made negative stereotypical assumptions about her. You've called her a "daddy's girl" because she is going on vacation with her father, you've called her juvenile, and you've said she might be obvlious to love/romance. Most women would not be interested in dating a guy who talked that way about them in particular, or women in general. You are making all these assumptions about her without any justification-- and all of them are negative stereotypes. You might want to think about the way you perceive women and why you jump to these conclusions before trying to pursue a relationship. Most women want to be respected by a partner, not infantalized. She might be playing up the "single us great!" line because she has already figured out you have a crush on her and is trying to politely give you the hint that she isn't interested romantically.
That's why I put emphasis on words like "sense", or "feel". I experienced allot more than I wrote. I'm a sensitive person, so I write what I sense, but I'm the last person to let that make me conclude solid conclusions about her. If it were that way, I wouldn't be further talking to her.
And I disagree with the assumption that she dropped a negative hint, especially after desperate statements about wondering how others get relationships and she doesn't. I also don't like negative hints. Not because I can't always sense them. But it gives the impression that the two can't talk together like mature human beings.
All I do right now is being interested in talking to her, and she has already ignored me when I asked her how her shift went so I won't text her again, unless who knows what will happen in the future.
I find it unfair that A(her) can have bad feelings about B(me) and brush them off, while B just wants to further get to know each other regardless of differences and work on finding positives rather than running away from things that seem negative at first.
But who knows why she's not responding to me. It can be many reasons. But until she won't tell me anything about it, all I have left is to assume.

EDIT - I should note, I see many positive things about her too - assuming "daddy's girl" and insecurity can actually mean that she's a sensitive person, someone who loves a male figure in her life, and I see that as very positive traits for a relationship!
It's something I wrote here in this thread - turn what seems negative, into a great positive.
Not to mention her cute playfulness, her calm and gentle talk, and her general cuteness.

Another EDIT - I've been really open about my thoughts and feelings since I wrote this thread.
Relationships with women has always been a struggle for me, I feel it has something to do with my nature.
But whenever I think of "...you can work this out, you can find love with a woman", my eyes start to tear.

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Old Feb 19, 2017, 08:15 PM
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Also, what do you exactly mean by "emotionally charged crushes"?
by emotionally charged crushes I mean when we thinkwith our feelings rather thsn with oyr logical mind.

Emotions are NEVER to be trusted ALONE without the guidance if our wise mind...or we usually mess everything up
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Old Feb 19, 2017, 08:48 PM
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by emotionally charged crushes I mean when we thinkwith our feelings rather thsn with oyr logical mind.

Emotions are NEVER to be trusted ALONE without the guidance if our wise mind...or we usually mess everything up
You're right.
It's just that sometimes it feels my mind can cover my heart so well, I can forget about it, haha
So it's just that at times I feel I need to loosen my mind a bit to see how I feel about someone.
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Old Feb 20, 2017, 05:54 AM
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As long as both feelings & logic are used there wont be a serious problem. We have to acknowledge feelings....they are important....but we cant let them be the only thing that controls our thinking
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