I was listening to a fellow talk about his marital troubles last night. I now exactly what is a big contributor to them and could have grabbed him by the shoulders and told him to stop. I realize this behaviour is an addiction but he needs to get his head out of the sand.

But I held my tongue. It was a group situation. I don't know him very well (I at least am not part of his problem but I can point to virtually every other woman there as being such). Is it really my battle anyway?

[Erebos]

No, as a rule I find it best not to get involved in this kind of situation if I do not know the person really well.
Unless the situation lends itself to a light hearted, well humored anecdote of a similar situation, that was effectively solved.
Then you need to have the confidence to tell it well. So that it almost appears not to apply to them at all.
Ok so nothing bad can really come of voicing your views. Except he may feel inadequate in front of his peers. The women involved may feel your simply trying to interfere in an attempt to garner his attention for yourself.

Good luck, I hope whatever you decide everything works out for the best.

[s4ndm4n2006]

You did the right thing.

Yes you did the right thing. I'm guessing if this is a support group the main thing is people need to feel they can talk about their problems freely, regardless of their own part in them. They don't necessarily want to be told what others think.

Support groups can sometimes be difficult for this very reason. People can remain stuck in behaviour/thought patterns for a long time, and it has to come from within them to change. It can be difficult to watch this.

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