[pinkvilla]

My husband and I have no emotional connect. We don't get each other.Whenever I have a problem and I discuss with him,he is critical of me.He may help me if I ask him to do something. But he won't console me or anything.I feel so alone in life. I have tried telling him this but nothing changes and he doesn't believe in therapy .

In my mind,I am so confused about if it is a bad marriage. If we go to a restaurant,we have nothing to discuss. We just order food and sit there. It is all so awkward. Is this normal??

[Trippin2.0]

How long has it been this way between you?

[June81280]

Me personally, I'd rather be alone.... I was in a relationship like that and left me for someone else

[pinkvilla]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

How long has it been this way between you?

The pattern has been the same right from the start and now with a bit of stress,the criticism has escalated that I feel so mad and alone.

[Trippin2.0]

The reason I asked was because I was hoping the answer is that its a new development..

Tbh I'm quite perplexed as to why anyone would commit to such a relationship, and so I'm afraid I don't actually have any valid feedback.

I'm really sorry that this is where you find yourself though Doesn't seem good or healthy to me.

[Erebos]

Hmmm, like Trippin I had hoped that this maybe a new thing.
First of all , what about him and your relationship made you decide to get married?

[TishaBuv]

I see people sitting in restaurants all the time not talking at all to each other. It is quite common. I don't get it at all.

I suppose a good conversation starter is "Why have we run out of things to talk about?"

It sounds like you didn't have much to say right from the start. Maybe all those others I've seen are the same.

If you feel lost and alone, I say find some way to spice things up for yourself. Whether it be with him or finding others to give you more joy.

What activities do you both enjoy? Instead of going out to eat and staying quiet what kind of things might engage the two of you? My boyfriend and I signed up for a two-night art class and we are really quite excited. What about simply going for a walk? Maybe a sporting event? Perhaps you might join him in something that interests him then encouraging him to do the same for you. If those dinners out are a problem, then what I am saying is avoid them. Heck, what about cooking a meal together?

I go to his motorcycle club meetings (a veteran's charity) even though I'm not much interested (actually I am anxious at them but I go because it's important). In turn he comes with me to my favourite sporting events. I volunteer with him for his charity and in turn he came camping with me. I don't necessarily enjoy myself all the time but doing something together - and making concessions - is important.