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Old Feb 22, 2017, 04:46 AM
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Tonight I broke up with my boyfriend, it had been on my mind for a while. We were together for almost 3 years. I love him, but the bad in the relationship was outweighing the good and I felt it was necessary.

He wants to talk in a couple days and try to mend things, but I don't want to. Maybe it seems cold hearted, but he has had many chances to change and now that I'm taking action, he wants one more? I just can't do it anymore.

He is now at his dad's place...it took a while to convince him to go. This hurts me a lot, but I think cutting all ties is the best thing to do at this point. I need to work on myself, and move on. I hope.
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Old Feb 22, 2017, 06:28 AM
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Good luck, that's a hard thing to do.
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Old Feb 22, 2017, 06:51 AM
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Stay true to yourself. You no longer want the relationship and that's fine.

That's good you just told him straight out, stick with it. He will be able to move on more quickly.
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Old Feb 22, 2017, 08:43 PM
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Old Feb 23, 2017, 12:20 AM
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That was a really brave decision I am sure it was difficult to do. It sounds like to me that you gave him alot of chances and I admire that you are standing your ground. Has he kept him distance or is he still trying to communicate with you still?
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Old Feb 23, 2017, 07:39 PM
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Old Feb 23, 2017, 07:43 PM
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A bit of an update - We are currently undergoing a trial separation. This will be his last chance to change, and I need some space for now.
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Old Feb 23, 2017, 08:41 PM
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Good job scaredandconfused!



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Old Feb 23, 2017, 10:33 PM
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A bit of an update - We are currently undergoing a trial separation. This will be his last chance to change, and I need some space for now.
Best wishes to you, scaredandconfused.

I know that stepping away from relationships like these take strength and bravery. It's not an easy thing to go through. I hope that this works for both you and him.

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Old Feb 27, 2017, 02:37 PM
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I wasted 8years on someone I believe in my heart could "change" I was ****ing wrong!
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Old Feb 28, 2017, 09:21 AM
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I think you did the right thing for you.
I'm glad he left at your request...I have not been so lucky.

Don't let him drag you back into something that you know was not working for you.
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Old Feb 28, 2017, 09:26 AM
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Update: He is coming back home today. Excited but nervous as well. Crossing my fingers that this works out. Thanks for the replies everyone!
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Old Feb 28, 2017, 09:53 AM
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People can change.... but they have to want it. It' has to be important to them.
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Old Feb 28, 2017, 10:02 AM
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