Loss of father and breakup.

Hi everyone, i joined this forum to share my story and hear some responses of opinions. I dated this guy twice, the first time it only lasted around four months. We first met and he became infatuated with me. He acted like i was the most perfect woman he had ever met and that i was different. To a point he even brought me on a family vacation, before i even had sex with him. I found him seeing other girls twice, so i decided to cut it off. When i had the conversation with him he acted very strange, even hid his head under the covers during our conversation, very bazar. Over the almost 9 months we were broken up, he constantly contacted me. He would randomly call or text me and just end up having a casual conversation, even though i knew he had more he wanted to say. Eventually he asked to talk to me, so one night we went to dinner. He never said a word of this "talk" he requested and just made it a casual dinner, as he was dropping me off, i asked him what he wanted to speak about and he still could not let the words come out of his mouth, so i just went inside my home, annoyed. He proceeded to contact me every once and a while. Even to the point he came to the nightclub i work at and had a real talk with me about how bad he ****ed up, of course he had to be intoxicated for this conversation. Eventually he asked to come see me. This was an actual good and fun hang out session and we ended up seeing each other again a couple of months later. This time we dated he took me more seriously, we became boyfriend and girlfriend, even planned to have a trip to europe together. We both had dreams of moving away to florida. One day after suprising him with this amazing dinner in lingere, it took him to being intoxicated,laying in my bed in the pitch dark to tell me that he applied to another school, away in florida. During the last couple of months of us dating, i started to feel negative around him. He would constantly speak of other girls bodies in front of me, put down everything that i enjoyed and just made me feel ******. I didn't feel like my normal happy positive carefree compassionate self anymore. Also during this time i was watching my father pass away from cancer. My boyfriend never once asked me how i was doing, or told me that he was there for me. One day we were at dinner and i tried to open up about my father passing away. He told me "ew not right now, i'm eating." I could not handle this negative feeling anymore, so i asked if we could have a conversation, he sat in the livingroom with me, i described to him that i had been feeling negative around him lately and i wasn't sure why, he complained to me that i was making him have a "conference" and asked if we could go to bed yet? He gave me absolutely no chance to talk and he did not care. A couple of weeks later came the time where i was in linegere cooking dinner for him and him telling me that he applied for a school far away. We talked about options of long distance dating or me going with him. He seemed like he wanted me to possibly go. We decided to speak about this later on, and went to sleep. The next day i went to work and i was so upset that my boyfriend who is supposed to be my partner and bestfriend did all of this behind my back without telling me. I came home from work and turned my phone off for the night, the next morning i woke up and had my phone turned back on for 20 minutes and recieved a call that my dad was in the hospital. He passed away that day. I had to work that next night and i went and stayed the night with my boyfriend after work. We woke up next to each other on thanksgiving and he was being an asshole to me. He told me to rate my own sense of humor on a scale of one to ten, because he claimed i didn't have one. mind you i spent the past two months watching my father pass away and this was the morning after he passed that my boyfriend was telling me to rate my sense of humor. I asked to have the conversation of what we were going to do. He told me he wanted to go alone. So it left us to break up. I went to my family thanksgiving that night and did not eat a thing. we were just planning the funeral. Here's my ex sending me snapchats. so i decided to block him from my phone and delete my social media apps for three weeks. Three weeks after the break up my ex shows up to my work and begs to talk to me, of course he was intoxicted and my coworkers and boss kicked him out (again i work at a night club). I began to see another guy, i just needed someone else around. My ex boyfriend has now showed up at my work again but with his now "girlfriend" and stands in an area where i will be forced to see him and possinly have to walk past him. The night club is also a restuarant and on top of doing bottle service at night, i used to serve during the day. He does not know that i have stopped serving. He showed up, sat at a table alone in the vip section where i work and ate brunch. I called and told my sister about this and she said that it was weird because his new girlfriend, of 2 months is now living with him and moving to florida with him. What is his issue? why is he showing up? is he taking it this far to get back at me for moving on with someone else? He has once been married just for a money gain of a very small amount. I have had a huge issue of blaming things on myself. And i'm trying to move past this.

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