Do you feel Lonely?

Hello there everybody,

So I am feeling unbelievably lonely. My best friend is away and I always go through this when he goes away upstate. But it's more than that. I have never considered myself clingy or emotionally needy, but I do find myself needing to connect. I have never felt more alone, with the need of just someone, anyone to talk to.

I have no friends or anyone to talk to, not even online. They are all missing or out living lives. The one friend I do have, completely ditched me last night. Didn't even call to cancel, just straight up ignored my calls. I received a text later that night "Sorry I was feeling ****** tonight" I mean WTF?

I hate people, and I am tired of always trying. I have never felt so alone. And the worst thing is being bipolar is such a weight on my shoulders where I don't feel like even trying. I wish I had a man in my life, or at least someone to talk to. I have so much to offer to someone, and so much to give. Is there no one out there?

I know exactly how you feel! I lost contact with all my friends during my 5 years of marriage. Now that we are separated I feel like I've got no support! I also lost my job last week and someone started a rumor that I tried to blame my closest friend I had at work. So my coworker wants nothing to do with me and I'm noticing other coworkers are deleting me from social media. Long story short, all my friends abandoned me when I needed them most.

I tend to feel like this myself. Since losing the only real life friend that I had left over a money related dispute, I have pretty much given up on relationships entirely and I instead drown myself in studying and online video gaming almost all of the time which helps me hide from my problems but seems to do little to solve them.

I mean, why deal with this dark lonely world when I can simply live in an alternate world in the form of online video games that I'm actually good at and where people respect me or where I can bury myself in a book reading about things that actually interest me?

Unfortunately, the simple minded beings who make up the majority of humanity lack the intellectual capacity to understand people as evolved as us.

Oh and I just have to say, don't take this the wrong way but I checked out your blog and I just have to say, you are a very fascinating person with an amazing mind.

People who reject you clearly don't know what they're losing.

I feel the same way. :/

Well, I've always been an introvert but that doesn't mean I completely hate company. In fact I do enjoy spending time with my friends, We enjoy good conversations and great laughs. But lately, it's a bit challenging to reach out because those friends prefer to hang out with other people. Sometimes they hangout with out me (yes, a bit "ouch").. but i try to be positive about it and just preoccupy myself with other things, although sometimes loneliness creeps in and it hurts a bit.

Siiiigh

I'm sorry you feel this way...I feel lonely as well

Yes indeed, all the time. I do find a certain comfort in my solitude and am an introvert to the very core. However, I'd be lying if I said I didn't get tired of being alone at times.

I do feel lonely, however I realized I'm incapable of love because i've never felt heartbreak.

I lost my friends when I was in a controlling relationship for six to seven years. I quit my job before I got fired then was an inpatient twice over few years.
Now I seem to be getting back on track (if I was even on track) and my medicine is needing changed and I may need to quit college. I have a handful of friends but I don't like them coming to hospital or meeting when I, ill. So I'm despairing.
I've only had a couple of very brief flings in four years with two girls who probably need more help than I do , that's the internet for you. But I know people who have met online and got married!
I was practically friendless in 2012 grew apart from school pals. I met one girl pal in hospital and in mental health get togethers and shes ace. I spoke to someone else on facebook. Met someone at college. And spoke to guy in like supported accomodation

What I could never understand is how in a world with 7 billion people anyone could be lonely. The problem is not being in the right place at the right time. Life is a continuation of circumstances. Are you lonely or just alone? Being alone is fine if you can live with yourself.
Being lonely is a choice to not engage the world. There's no getting around it. As like many of you I have been in both places. SEEK AND YE SHALL FIND. Sometimes your better off by yourself. Other times you need others. It's the balance we need to achieve.

Always remember we are all individuals. We come into this world alone and we leave it alone. Remember , human beings would not survive a few days after birth without help from another human.

same here guys

I'm an introvert to the core and I tend to isolate when I'm severely depressed. I've also had some bad experiences with people and been hurt so I am wary (bad childhood, severe bullying and assault). As a result I don't get lonely often but when I do occasionally it's pretty bad. I've made a commitment to myself to get out and get involved in some groups I've got my mind on. I think it will be healthier that way. You can always reach out to me when you're having a tough time. I'm here for you.