[JK1967]

When people are mad I know they say and do things they may regret later. Especially when you're leaving someone and your friends say "wow I thought he was so nice". You're then left with trying to explain how "bad" things really were right? Well my GF I fear has done just this to me. She told some people some things about me that was exaggerated and laid it on kinda thick if you know what I mean. So now these people have a dim view of me and you know that from now on in the back of their minds they're thinking things like "theres that animal that hurt that poor little girl. Not knowing of course the WHOLE story and not knowing the REAL story and everything behind it. We are trying to work things out at this point however and thigns are going good. I just have these thoughts lingering over my head and its really bothering me that she got to this point where she would say things to make me look so crappy to everyone. Also its obvious that she was mad for quite some time before she actually left and I didnt even know a thing about it. She was very good at hiding, planning and deploying her plan. We've been together for 3 years and lived together the whole time. I thought I knew her. I knew we had some problems but she never once told me they had progressed bad enough that she was thinking of leaving. She just did it. Kinda scary. Anyway, how should I deal with this? I feel its up to her to tell them right. To right the wrong so to speak. I also think its only fair that I know exactly what was said so as to better defend myself around these people as well as try to explain. Also I think it would be easier to get EVERYTHING out in the open, discuss it, recognize it and then move on if possible. I guess Im just saying that its hard to look this person in the eye knowing they trashed my good name around in order to defend their cause so to speak. What you would do? Forget about it pretend these people dont matter? They arent going to go away and some are family of hers so thats hard there too. Help!!