Is it weird I have no desire for romantic relationship?

Hello,
I'm a divorced 24 year old woman. I have a son, full time job, and go to school. I've had two serious relationships my whole life and always felt the need to have a boyfriend. Lately, I've been repulsed at the idea of bring with someone. Is this normal? I feel like it's abnormal because through my history I've always been dependent on relationships to feel complete. I have a hx of anxiety and depression.

I'm 25 and I currently have no desire for a relationship, nor have I ever been in a stable long term relationship for any longer than a few months so I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

Not even 2 years ago I was desperate for a relationship because I craved love since I had no family and my mother was an abuser who screwed my life up so I craved some way to compensate for that which did nothing more than bring me more pain.

Now, I couldn't care less. Relationships are more trouble than they're worth to me. I choose to focus on my passions and gaining knowledge and wealth instead.

Despite what society says, you don't NEED a relationship to be happy.

You've got a lot on your plate right now.

Under the circumstances, I reckon not wanting to be in a relationship right now is absolutely fine!

I agree with Crazy Hitch. You've got a lot going on. If you're not interested in a relationship then you're not interested. Nothing abnormal about that. I can totally relate.

If you're asking if it's normal based on what a larger group of people feels about relationships, yes, it is different than the norm. If you're asking if it's normal in the sense of asking if it's an acceptable thing like, is there something wrong with you because you aren't interested in a relationship, then no, it's not.

If you're concerned as to why you now have no desire for a relationship right now, the answer is best found within yourself, and we here may be able to help you answer the question but there is no way we can give you that.

What I would do is ask some questions of yourself. Things like, "what changed", and "what is it about a relationship that is objectionable". These things are only answers you can give and if you really look within you can find out why it is right in this moment you don't need a relationship.

My speculation would be that something in your past relationships gives you reasons to see them as negative. When it's been some time since you've been in a relationship and you gain some distance from the emotional aspect of it, you tend to be able to see them more objectively. Perhaps that's what you've come to realize. That you see too many negative aspects of being in a relationship over the positive aspects. Maybe I'm going out on a limb here but it sounds like if you couldn't feel complete without relationships before it was a dependence thing. You've probably been able to enjoy the things that come with accepting your independence now and you've become content with that. A relationship would imply giving up a lot of that independence you enjoy now.

But in summary it's perfectly normal and acceptable, especially if your past relationships were bad or even just a little rocky.

hope this helps.

That is definitely a subjective question, only because the answer depends on the person.

Do you feel weird for not wanting to be in a relationship right now? Asking that question, implies that you believe your situation goes against social norms; that someone with a child who is divorced, *should* be in a relationship, to create a whole family system.

You have a full-time job, you go to school, and you have a child to raise. That is quite a lot of responsibility for a 24 year old woman (or any single parent, at any age).

Do you ever practice positive self-talk? I think once you start to practice that, it will build your self-confidence and self-esteem, to the point where you realize that only you can make yourself feel complete. Does that make sense?

If you feel overwhelmed, reach out to your county and state resources for food, rental, and daycare support.

Maybe your just growing up and realizing they might not be worth the effort? I always saw myself getting married to my soulmate and having a great wonderful life. But, when I got to reality ... it was so not that and I kind of started realizing that it is just really really hard and I just don't want my life to be about pursuing that. I also agree with the others that you may have too much on your plate to fit one more thing done.

How is your relationship with your son?
Perhaps he's filling that gap?

It's called aromantic or "single at heart" when someone tends to feel like that their whole lives.

Not sure how common it is for someone to switch. Several years ago, I went through a brief phase of wanting a romantic relationship. (I didn't want one when I was a kid, and I don't want one now, but for a year or two in my early twenties, it somehow appealed to me.)

Even for people who do want romantic relationships, it's not good to feel "dependent on relationships to feel complete."

Looking at purely a practical standpoint rather than emotional, it seems like a relationship would be disadvantageous in your circumstance.

Nah, I don't think it's weird. Do what is comfortable for you.