Virgin at 22, could use tips.

Yes I am virgin at 22. Growing up & I still do I have low self confidence around women. I have hard time approaching women I freeze up & get nervous. Eventually the time will come, I will DO it. But how can I perform well in the bedroom? I just want some tips for an amateur like me. Also where is an ideal place to meet women thanks

One place is as good as another. Approach young women, if you like them as people. Don't just think: "Maybe I can have sex with this one." If you're with someone you like, who likes you, you'll know when the time is right.

You'll gain confidence around women, if you find you can talk to them as people, understanding that each woman has her fears and insecurities - just like you.

Hi techlife95.

For those who feel alone, or simply wanting to reach out for a chat without judgement......this is the place. There are many good listeners here, we're a pretty good bunch.

Building confidence around around others is an issue many people face, joining social groups of mutual interest is a good way to start off meeting like minded others. Having something in common can provide an initial connection that can be built on. Remember that most others are just as nervous when meeting new people, building rapport takes time.

I have been an active member of this site for 3 years. In that time I have received some really constructive feedback and connected with several others with similar challenges to myself. I have also found hanging out in the Games Forums to be a welcome distraction in times of stress... a great way to clear my head, meet like minded others, and have some well needed fun. New members also benefit greatly from perusing the many forums available here...lots to explore. Also after 5 approved posts members have the option to join the chatrooms..or chat one on one with other members.

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Please be kind to yourself techlife95, and welcome to P.C

If you don't have a job and don't get out much maybe you can try meeting some women online. There are some good dating sites and apps that people use all the time to meet others. You will get there, just take it slow and don't rush into anything you don't want to force yourself into!

I'm afraid of getting catfished

I know how you feel that or she pulls a Catilyn Jenner on you lol.
But your only 22 I'm 31 gonna be 32 in July and still a Virgin it sucks
but in my defense I'm ugly, fat and dumb so I can see why I'm single.

Good. you should be. more common than you think and not even the cases where people are after money or something. Many out there are not who they pretend to be and for various reasons.

To get over your confidence issues I suggest staying away from online. Breaking the ice with women irl is going to go a lot further to building your confidence in yourself with women. Yes online will do that somewhat but it's never truly a test unless you do it (approach them I mean) face to face.

as for "performing" in the bedroom. first. toss that thought out the window. If the one you are with is someone that you care about and want to be with "performance" is the last thing you need to concentrate on and there isn't really a method or a way, unless you plan or want to be a player that is out just to get laid all the time and I don't think that's what you're after. So in a nutshell, don't worry about it. In most cases with two people in love it works just fine.

Have you ever thought for once that it's your personality that drives them away much more than how ugly, fat, and dumb you think you are?

Woah that's a harsh thing to say. Why are you beating yourself up with negative self talk?

Don't rush into it. Get out there work, volunteer and socialise. You will meet someone eventually.

In terms of skills I would focus on finding someone you have a deep connection with for your first time. It doesn't really matter what you can do if there's love there. You learn together!

Just my thoughts!

Not to worry. I think it'll be worse if you just pick up a girl and decide you're going to "do it" with her. When the right one comes along, you will want to make her happy and vice versa. It's a matter of taking things slowly. (I'm a "girl" who waited for a male virgin. It's fun learning together.) Please relax about it all. You're definitely not too old to be a male who hasn't done it all

1. you're a virgin at 22. That's good news not bad. Unless you've been in committed relationships that were worth it, being a virgin is actually a normal thing. Idk where this world turned all this upside down as if it's abnormal to be a virgin.

2. the way you point to yourself as an "amateur" with regards to sex, do you really think you need to be a pro at it? And do you really want to be?

I'm old school and think sex is far more important as "intimate relations" rather than something everyone does for "fun" it's not to be taken lightly but also there is more meaning in the ONE that you have sex with than how well you do it. Because with the right person it won't matter that you are new to it or not "practiced."

Moderator I apologize can you delete those 3 previous posts please and just add this post here.

This is how I feel. I feel I'm better off watching adult porn for a while. I'm an introverted person. I have been introverted person all my life so I'm better off being single I suppose. I don't feel so awful about being a 22 year old virgin no more.

I have nothing particular against porn. It can be entertaining, satisfying and, even, educating. I would encourage anyone to sample it. I do, however, believe it has a downside. It can be habit forming. A person can be conditioned by porn to respond only to porn. That can be too bad. Porn can broaden your horizons, or it can narrow them.

No matter how introverted a person is, every person needs other people. To try and furnish a self-contained world where it seems like you don't need to leave your own solitude because you have all that you need to feel good being alone with yourself is not a good direction to go in.

This can be a very tough world for introverts, and some pain is guaranteed when you risk venturing out. But 22 is far too young to imagine that you can't master lots of capabilities that seem beyond you now.

Some people, in despair, do turn inward away from the outside world and decide to create what they hope will be a safe, sheltered refuge that holds only what is predictable. They end up in a self-made prison.

No law says you have to run out and marry someone . . . ever. But do get up from the keyboard and screen and see what's in the world. There are others like yourself who would like to meet you . . . and some others, very different from yourself, who would also like to meet you.

Porn can make you feel intimidated about having sex IRL because they make it look theatrical and so exciting, but that's not really what it looks like when really having sex.

Real sex is two people figuring out what makes each other feel good. It's not rocket science. It's instinctive.

Yes when it comes to Professional Adult porn it is unrealistic. However when it comes to homemade/amateur adult porn that's real