[Pretender79]

I would like your opinion on what might be going on with my friend, if I can kind of "get into her head" I may be able to handle the situation a little better next time.

My friend and I are both divorced and have been each others' support group throughout. I'm going to make a long story short; she started flirting heavily with a guy that I was originally talking to at the bar. Now, I just let it be since I was not that interested in the guy; but what causes someone to do this? Insecurity? Just interested in your opinions.

[healingme4me]

Beats me. Had a college roommate completely create a full years rift over her pulling a similar stunt. It sucks. Probably insecurities? Dunno. Lost track of her after that first year..

[Sunflower123]

There's really no telling unless you ask her. Maybe she was feeling insecure or maybe she was more into him then you were.

There could be several reasons… She could be doing it just for fun, or maybe she likes the attention. Many people flirt, even some who are otherwise married, as a mutually enjoyable experience probably.

[Patagonia]

Maybe she saw it as a competition to see if she was still in the game...if she still had it. I'd think "winning" would make her feel great. Obviously she's forgetting about her friend.

[Sarahas]

That happened to me a lot with a gf of mine...I thought it was to see if she still had it and if she could get guys over me. It's pretty insulting but if the guy wasn't interested in her they would continue to talk with me which made her upset...she's very attention based and selfish. Luckily for her, I didn't let it bug me because I wasn't looking to pick up anyone from a bar