[Erikad]

I dont know where this could best be post but I think this is the most fitted forum

My husband is living in incest with some of his family members while I'm living alone now
I have been married for about a year now to him and I have never told anyone what goes on..

I'm very scared and I cry every day I don't know why this is happening to me and why I'm alone in a home with no money nobody to talk to and nothing but my dog to hold onto at night

When I first met my husband my father had passed I was so in pain I quit my job and stopped going out and stopped doing everyday things altogether
But my husband is older and seemed like he cared about me and wanted to help me get better I would only go out to meet my husband and grab some food then I would go back home. I don't have any siblings and my mother passed away when I was child but my husband said his family would welcome me and then I could have a new family home

But when we married everything changed. My husband who is almost fifty years old was living with his mother and three cousins. I moved in and immediately understood I was not welcome even though before marriage they had smiled in my face and pretended that I was a dear guest in their house

They would listen outside my rooms door they would make jokes about me they even held a meeting about me in the living room while I was in the house telling my husband that I was a crazy ***** etc etc

Then. The worst thing. I walked in on my husband in bed with his niece who is adult. They were not penetrating but she was in a long T-shirt and underpants and my husband only in boxershorts. He did not leave even though he saw me I'm the door. I wanted to throw up but I just frooze. Later I walked in on my husband and his mother in bed together again for no reason nobody was sick everyone has their own room. I just. I can't tell anyone I'm so ashamed meanwhile they all called me crazy. He would leave my bed at night to sneak in to theirs. I know people will think I'm lying because they don't believe this could happen but it did happen this is my life right now

I pressed my husband to move out and he finally gave in and we packed our stuff and left quick after to an apartment where we were going to live together as man and woman. My husband left only after a week where his mother would call him more than twenty times a day so me and him could not have any time together even when we moved.

Now I have been living alone for almost the entire marriage and my husband is living with these sick freaks. He keeps promising we will move in together somewhere else. Now he has found a place but I think the same thing will happen again.
My husband has told me his family kicked him out on the streets as a child and nobody opened a door to let him into their home but today he still wants to be with these people.
I feel my husband took full advantage of me because of my sorrow that I still have from my father's death and all. I don't sleep anymore. I don't care about my life.

Many times I have wanted to end my life cause I know nobody would care.
I have no money he made sure I spended what I had saved with him and I don't have work right now. He only gives me money for food while these people get more of his money than his wife.
He tells me we will have children together but I don't know. My mind doesn't work anymore.

I'm thankfully because he was there for me when my father passed but I don't know why my husband wants his mother and niece sexually but not me. I lost weight for my husband its not enough. Please someone help me out I can't think anymore

[SeaweedKelp]

Wow, that is a sick and twisted family. Would you want to raise your children without a caring dad? It sounds like you need to find shelter with your family members so you could figure out how to rebuild your life. That is so sick that he would do that to you, sleeping with his niece and mother? Are you serious that you want to be around this guy? He sounds like a freak. I just don't see a reason why you would want to stay married to this guy? I know you need money but you don't have any family members or friends to stay with for a while?

[Sunflower123]

You need to get out. I know you don't have family. How about friends? Make a plan (take baby steps) and get out. You deserve better than this freak and his twisted family. If he gives you money for food starting putting as much aside as you can. I don't know how else to advise you but I'm here to support you and talk to you when you need me. You're not alone.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Erikad: I'm sorry you are caught in this difficult & confusing situation. Hopefully coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support.

I'm not sure what I can suggest here. You know too well how things are with your husband & his family. Is it possible it could change? Well... I suppose anything is possible. But given that your husband is almost 50, this seems unlikely. So, from my perspective, I think you really have to decide if this is a situation you can live with. If not, then it may be best to do what you can to end this marriage now... if that is an option for you. I see you live in Turkey. So I don't know what options you may or may not have.

You mentioned having children. I do personally think bringing children into this kind of situation would be unfortunate. Plus, once you have a child, it will become even more difficult to leave this relationship behind.

I noticed this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!

[Crazy Hitch]

You have been through a lot in a very faraway country.

Firstly, congratulations on moving out. This is a positive step forward.

Just know that none of what went on was your fault - even right down to the gossiping family members outside your door when they knew that you could hear.

I think it's an awful situation you're in.

Do you have any support structures that can help you?

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Originally Posted by Erikad

I dont know where this could best be post but I think this is the most fitted forum

My husband is living in incest with some of his family members while I'm living alone now
I have been married for about a year now to him and I have never told anyone what goes on..

I'm very scared and I cry every day I don't know why this is happening to me and why I'm alone in a home with no money nobody to talk to and nothing but my dog to hold onto at night

When I first met my husband my father had passed I was so in pain I quit my job and stopped going out and stopped doing everyday things altogether
But my husband is older and seemed like he cared about me and wanted to help me get better I would only go out to meet my husband and grab some food then I would go back home. I don't have any siblings and my mother passed away when I was child but my husband said his family would welcome me and then I could have a new family home

But when we married everything changed. My husband who is almost fifty years old was living with his mother and three cousins. I moved in and immediately understood I was not welcome even though before marriage they had smiled in my face and pretended that I was a dear guest in their house

They would listen outside my rooms door they would make jokes about me they even held a meeting about me in the living room while I was in the house telling my husband that I was a crazy ***** etc etc

Then. The worst thing. I walked in on my husband in bed with his niece who is adult. They were not penetrating but she was in a long T-shirt and underpants and my husband only in boxershorts. He did not leave even though he saw me I'm the door. I wanted to throw up but I just frooze. Later I walked in on my husband and his mother in bed together again for no reason nobody was sick everyone has their own room. I just. I can't tell anyone I'm so ashamed meanwhile they all called me crazy. He would leave my bed at night to sneak in to theirs. I know people will think I'm lying because they don't believe this could happen but it did happen this is my life right now

I pressed my husband to move out and he finally gave in and we packed our stuff and left quick after to an apartment where we were going to live together as man and woman. My husband left only after a week where his mother would call him more than twenty times a day so me and him could not have any time together even when we moved.

Now I have been living alone for almost the entire marriage and my husband is living with these sick freaks. He keeps promising we will move in together somewhere else. Now he has found a place but I think the same thing will happen again.
My husband has told me his family kicked him out on the streets as a child and nobody opened a door to let him into their home but today he still wants to be with these people.
I feel my husband took full advantage of me because of my sorrow that I still have from my father's death and all. I don't sleep anymore. I don't care about my life.

Many times I have wanted to end my life cause I know nobody would care.
I have no money he made sure I spended what I had saved with him and I don't have work right now. He only gives me money for food while these people get more of his money than his wife.
He tells me we will have children together but I don't know. My mind doesn't work anymore.

I'm thankfully because he was there for me when my father passed but I don't know why my husband wants his mother and niece sexually but not me. I lost weight for my husband its not enough. Please someone help me out I can't think anymore

This is a form of emotional abuse. He isn't concerned about anything other than control of you. You need to leave him. You will not be happy unless you do.