[ComfortablyNumb5]

I could write a book on this woman hating me. My bf and I have been through some rough times with my MI. He's seen me go in and out of IP stays and was around for my drinking problems. He never left me. Not once. Well for example, when he told his mom I was bipolar she said "why the hell do you want to be with a disabled girl who can't work?!" Then she is now trying to bribe him with a new car to break up with me. She's constantly calling him and I can here her talking crap on the phone and it upsets me soooo terribly. There's been times I really thought about breaking up with him because of her harassment. She tells him "you chose her over me!" What kind of mother says something like that? He said all through his life she had never ever liked any one his gf's and treated them all like this.

I'm at my breaking point right now. She's a huge trigger for my MI and I don't know what to do. I love him, I really do. But a person can only take so much.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sorry you're going through that. What a toxic person! If push comes to shove, protect your mental health. Can you talk to your bf about limiting exposure to her? She's not doing him any favors either treating him like that. Best wishes.

[Trippin2.0]

I would cut her loose if I were in your shoes.

Like zero contact.

There's absolutely no need to subject yourself to such toxicity.

[Hairball]

Your bf needs to get a backbone and tell her flat out not to discuss you in any form or fashion to him or their relationship is over. End of that story!

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Yes I stopped all contact with her about a year ago. But that doesn't stop her from putting me down still. For the first year of our relationship I would tell him to stick up for me. I'd get so upset and it felt like he didn't care. Well now that things are getting uglier, he's been telling her off and when he does she says stuff like "fine don't come to my house again an I won't get you that new Apple Watch". She plays games like that. It's her way of control. Like when I gave him a ride from her house today and she saw me pick him up, she brought up that new car and he laughed and slammed the door. He got in my car and said "I can't believe she'd ever think I'd chose a car over you"

[metalchick]

She has major attachment issues with her son...maybe she should go to therapy.

[~Christina]

Sounds like HE needs to distance himself from her. No one forces him to answer the phone when she calls.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Exactly!! She calls and texts him all day everyday. Most of the time he doesn't even answer. 9 times out of 10 he just lets her babble on.

Oh... and he's an only child. So she spoils him, tries to bribe him, and threatens him when he does something "wrong".

[Sunflower123]

That's a tough situation you're in. Sounds like it's time to have a heart-to-heart with your bf.

[Crazy Hitch]

Omg she's a bee with an itch! Holy cow no wonder it upsets you.

She needs to get off her high horse.

Hand her a pair of scissors to cut the umbilical cord.

[NikoleS]

She needs therapy. However, I'm pretty sure she's like my family and will say "There's nothing wrong with me". My family hated my boyfriend for no reason whatsoever. They have alcoholism and drug issues. It's been over a year since I have spoken to them. However, I suppose it's harder with the mother since the attachment is stronger. I don't have experience with that since I only dealt with older siblings since my parents have passed. He needs to speak to her firm and tell her how it is and if she can't act right then he will stop talking to her until she can. I think she's jealous because he's the only child and feels like you're taking him away. If she could be more of a pleasant person then she could have him and you as a daughter, but the way she's acting is making her have neither.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

Omg she's a bee with an itch! Holy cow no wonder it upsets you.

She needs to get off her high horse.

Hand her a pair of scissors to cut the umbilical cord.

I agree ... scissors is what her son needs to use , mom won't ever do it based off the incredible amount of BS that Rx is having to deal with.

Rx.... if your BF has to take a call from her just ask that he does it outside. You don't need this nonsense while trying to find balance with BP

(((( hugs ))))

[Wild Coyote]

I agree with Christina's suggestion. I think you and your bf should think this through and find other ways to insulate/protect you from his mother's misdeeds.
Please ask your bf to help to protect you more.

WC

[divine1966]

My dad doesn't like my husband. My husband is the sweetest man college educated successful professional. My husband has Tourette's so he does some annoying things at times but he can't control it and it doesn't harm anyone. But then my dad hated my first husband too who had no issues and also is a nice man, just our marriage didn't work out. He hated him with passion. Heck he also dislikes my sister in law, he is just an ***.

Your bfs mom is just a biatch. That's about it.

Sorry you have this crap in your life. I can relate

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Thank you so much for the support everyone. I'm glad I'm not just overreacting here!

[Chyialee]

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

Thank you so much for the support everyone. I'm glad I'm not just overreacting here!

Oh no, RxQ, NO WAY are you over-reacting!

THis woman has very serious boundary (and other, imo) issues. Seriously, a grown woman saying to her ADULT son, "You Choose Her Over Me...!" ...waaaaahhhh... What. The. Actual. HELL? Ick. Just, ICK. SHE wants to be his "best girl" is what it sounds like.

It's wonderful that your bf is not havin' it. Let's hear it for men with maturity and self-awareness (and btw does your bf give seminars on same, bc I know a guy or two who could use intense classes..) LOVE IT She'll not win anything by this behaviour -- which is exactly as it should be!

Emotional blackmail is abuse --- and she's a piece o'work, imo!

You go, girl.

xo,

Chyia, proud as heck of both you & bf!