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Jul 31, 2017, 12:54 PM
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We were together dor 9 years and its veen about 2 months almost since our breakup. I disnt want it. With the exception of the first monthish. He has contacted me everyday. Hes been asking to see me and go places together. This past weekend he when we went somewhere together he said it would be our " first date". He has said we are taking it slow so as to not fall back into old habits ( which i do agree with). He also will bring up things to me such as going places together in the future, like months away. Im curious if this means we will get back together, what can i do to speed up the process??
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 Bill3, MickeyCheeky, Sunflower123
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#2
Jul 31, 2017, 03:17 PM
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If you can, let him set the pace. It sounds like he wants to get back together. Be grateful for that and stick to his speed. Good luck and best wishes for getting back together.
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Jul 31, 2017, 09:25 PM
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Ask him what are his intentions. Is he willing to try relationship again or is it just friendship? It's hard to take things slow after 9 years. I don't like uncertainty. Ask him directly what's on his mind
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Jul 31, 2017, 10:46 PM
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It sounds like he has started the relationship again...and it sounds like you both agree...you need to do things different this time around.
Don't rush it...there is a beauty in the rekindling of a love connection...Savor the moments and cherish the fact that you are both attempting a second chance. Good luck to you and yours.
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#5
Aug 01, 2017, 05:37 AM
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He has said we are taking it slow. But then he will do things like kiss me out of nowhere so i dont think its friendship only. It is hard for me especially to take it slow though after 9 years. But i have been letting him take initiative. I let him contact me first, he will suggest plans first. But sometimes it does bother me, but i dont want to ' scare him away". I am trying to enjoy things but it can be hard sometimes because i still have alot of questions that need answers but again i dont want to scare him OFF
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#6
Aug 01, 2017, 06:54 AM
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If you have questions but are afraid to scare a man off, then you are in unhealthy arrangement. And if he gets scared off by your questions he is a wrong man for you. Good man with serious intentions will not be scared off because you asked. Also if he will run away because you ask something, he isn't that into you.
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#7
Aug 01, 2017, 07:04 AM
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Omg I went to your old posts. He has been a terrible boyfriend all these years plus he refuses to commit, he doesn't want sex and he trears you horrubly, why do you want him back? Block him and move on. This isn't going anywhere, it will continue causing you pain fir another decade. Get out now!
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#8
Aug 01, 2017, 07:20 AM
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