Living situation

Sassandclass · Jul 04, 2017, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellyfish18

What am I so honest about?

All the things you've tried to do in this situation, and how lost you feel because none of it seemed to work.

Jellyfish18 · Jul 04, 2017, 12:52 PM

Yes. Do you have any advice or comment?
Also what are your hobbies if I can ask?

Sassandclass · Jul 04, 2017, 03:02 PM

Humm... well, if it's advice you're looking for, based on the information you've provided, you could look into courses you can take re: social skills. As well, joining a "meetup" group may help you as well. Hanging out with like minded people can make us feel included and also can help us work on our social skills in the process.

My hobbies are varied. My personality is ENFP (Myers Briggs MBTI). So I am the most introverted of the extroverts. Therefore, because of this, I have extroverted and introverted hobbies. Here are a few of them:

1) Singing in my band
2) reading and writing
3) art work
4) volunteer work in my community
5) volunteer work with a suicide prevention/depression help line
6) redoing furniture / refurbishing old antiques
7) Gardening in the yard of our new house - there's lots to do!
8) a girls night with a few of my gal friends every week where we do art and go out for a meal afterwards

So, as you see, it's a combination of extroverted and introverted time - Which matches my personality. But everyone is different. What do you think would be hobbies that would match your personality?

Sunflower123 · Jul 06, 2017, 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Sassandclass

This is an interesting perspective.
I'm personally an ENFP (extroverted), so the idea that someone needs tons of alone time alone in their room boggles my mind. I need a couple hours a day and that's pretty much it. I use alone time to be productive and work on my many hobbies. But honestly, too much alone time makes me feel depressed.

Another perspective: I am an INTJ. If I spent the entire day alone in my room every once in awhile I would be rejuvenated. Being around others constantly tends to drain me.

Sunflower123 · Jul 06, 2017, 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Sassandclass

Humm... well, if it's advice you're looking for, based on the information you've provided, you could look into courses you can take re: social skills. As well, joining a "meetup" group may help you as well. Hanging out with like minded people can make us feel included and also can help us work on our social skills in the process.

My hobbies are varied. My personality is ENFP (Myers Briggs MBTI). So I am the most introverted of the extroverts. Therefore, because of this, I have extroverted and introverted hobbies. Here are a few of them:

1) Singing in my band
2) reading and writing
3) art work
4) volunteer work in my community
5) volunteer work with a suicide prevention/depression help line
6) redoing furniture / refurbishing old antiques
7) Gardening in the yard of our new house - there's lots to do!
8) a girls night with a few of my gal friends every week where we do art and go out for a meal afterwards

So, as you see, it's a combination of extroverted and introverted time - Which matches my personality. But everyone is different. What do you think would be hobbies that would match your personality?

This is excellent advice. I wish you the best Jelly. Good luck.

Sassandclass · Jul 06, 2017, 09:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

Another perspective: I am an INTJ. If I spent the entire day alone in my room every once in awhile I would be rejuvenated. Being around others constantly tends to drain me.

Yes, I find that fascinating! Beautiful. My husband is a INTJ and I love it! It's my exact opposite and we work together beautifully. I find it so fascinating how he doesn't seem to need interaction from others very much. I envy it sometimes. He is so content to be on his own or just with me, as his best friend and wife. As an ENFP myself (although we are the most "introvert" of the "extroverts") I'm driven to connect with others and spend time with others because that's where I get my energy from. So my husband and I compromise together and find a happy medium

It's really healthy for both of us. I expand his horizons and he, in turn, makes me feel secure and stable.

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