[Soul Quake]

My boyfriend is currently in a psych ward. The last time we spoke was Saturday because he said he has to focus on himself right now. Which I understand. But it isn't helping me with my anxiety. I'm concerned something is wrong with the relationship but I don't want to bother him or disregard what he said.

I feel like I can barely function now because I'm so anxious. I'm wondering if calling him will alleviate my anxiety or only worsen it depending on what he says. I just want to reiterate that he's not alone and that I'm here for him.

I have no idea what to do in this situation. Help.

[bearguardian]

Can you contact him some other way to let him know you are there for him without calls.

Maybe Im the wrong person for advice since I hate phone calls.

Also consider his psychology more than words. Does he like more his independence or consolation?

I never really answer threads like these since I really suck at human interaction problems, but hope this helps...

[Sunflower123]

I agree. Is there some other way you can be there for him without a phone call?If he says he needs to focus on himself, a phone call may be detrimental to him. I know you are anxious but he needs to focus on healing.

[Crazy Hitch]

I agree with the above posters. I think if he's in a psych ward, and he's specifically asked you not to contact him, it is safest, for the time being, that you don't.

[Soul Quake]

Thanks for the responses and insight. He ended up calling me earlier today. He has been very depressed to the point he didn't want to talk up until now.

[Ineedahug]

Hi, Soul Quake. I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I hope your boyfriend knows that the anxiety you're showcasing means you care. I hope your phone call went well, and if you're still feeling worried after the fact, maybe journaling or writing him a letter would help. Right now he probably needs his space to figure everything out, but if you're ever needing any more support or you feel anxious again don't forget that you've got people to help you here, as well. Good luck, and I hope he makes a speedy recovery.