[Alchemy]

I never had friends. I just always didn't feel the need to or didn't find anyone interested.

Around 3 months ago I was talking about something on a website, and a girl started talking and we became friends. she is very nice and everything, and after some time I also met another girl there, after 2 months of chatting she asked me out! (i'm only 18, she's 19!) I liked her a lot (and had a little crush on her) so I said yes (after making sure she won't be hurt if things go bad since we are in different countries) I couldn't believe anyone would even consider asking me out. So things went good, to be honest I was feeling weird about nothing changing after her asking me out (we still did everything like we used to. which made me feel weird, and it made me feel more lonely since I now kept getting reminded of her and I couldn't see her). A few days ago I interdicted them to each other! they got a long very well! I was happy.

After a few days my friend said that she is super nice and said that jokingly said she had a crush on her, I being very bad at human communication just thought it's a joke and was happy they're getting along. a day after that she mentioned that to her and left the group we were in after. I was supper worried. She said she's angry that she's alone and felt lonely and everything. I tried to make her feel better. a few hours later I re invited her and she's there again.

but I'm still worried about her, she promised she won't hurt herself or anything But I want to make sure she's ok. is there anything I can do? I never had to deal with drama before in my life. this sort of stuff is very very new to me.

I don't blame her for feeling like this.I just wish she could be happy. she's an amazing girl I know she's going to find someone. but still I feel like she's hiding her pain now despite everything.

I have to mention that she's going trough a lot at this moment. she's also transgender and has non-supportive parents.

Anyone can give me any advice on what to say or do?!

[Crazy Hitch]

If this is all online stuff, be careful of how far you let yourself get emotionally invested in all of this as they can drop you at the click of a finger.

[~Christina]

I agree with Crazy hitch .. How did you go on a date while living in different counties ? If this is just online ... You might want to hop outta that mess to be honest.

[divine1966]

How can somebody "ask you out" if you live in deferent countries? Sure I live by Canadian border and could go on a date to a different country but not too many people live by international borders. Are you in Europe? Then I could see how borders are close to each other. Is this actual dating or you are just talking online?

[Erebos]

Unless you're making plans to meet or have met this isn't really dating. I understand you can get invested online, that's how I met my partner, through online gaming. But we at least were physically talking to each other first. But we didn't count it as a relationship until we had been in each others physical presence a few times.

Have you skyped, or video called?
Just be careful, I know it can sweep you away and become like your just sitting waiting for those messages to come in.

As for your friend, You can't really afford to let yourself get tied up in this emotionally, especially since you can't really do anything to help.
Being there to talk to is great, but you can't be responsible for someone's welfare, in this situation.

All the best, take care.

[Sunflower123]

I agree with the same posters listed above unless you have close proximity to the person on line it would be hard to have a long distance relationship.

As to your friend, all you can do is talk to and support her. Best wishes.

[Alchemy]

Ok I have to say i'm not sure if my friend really meant that. she's going trough a really tough time.

And I agree with what you said. me and her being in different to places. but I'm only 18. so it doesn't matter. she's the first person I've ever "dated" I know it's not dating, we both talked about it, and we both know to not take things seriously. to be honest nothing has changed since she asked me out. we still talk the same and stuff. But You made me really worried about me being stupid and acting crazy or something ;( do you think I made a mistake? I mean one day we could meet. I mean we might breakup one day, but if we do we can still be friends and stuff. and after all we all have to learn don't we?

am I being crazy? Because these days from the amount of pressure I have I can't tell what's a good idea and what's not. and everything's changing. So i have no idea what's good and not.

[Crazy Hitch]

I think as long as you're being sensible about this and realise the limitations of the fact that it is just online, it's okay.

[Alchemy]

oh thanks ^_^ we do. we talked about how well. it's like this. and she agreed. she says we'd just be friends again if anything happens.