I need help with Bipolar 2 girlfriend

Hello. I am 30 years old. My girlfriend is 30 also. I've been with my girlfriend for a year. I have known her for about 4 years. We had a sexual/romantic past before we were together officially. I've always known she was bipolar 2. She gets depressed, gets very obsessed with things, gets down on herself, etc. All things I can tolerate.

I fell in love with her. I accepted in my mind these things that come along with her being bipolar. At least all of the things that I knew about. Since i have moved in with her though 4 months ago, I have found some new things that I would like some advice on.

Now that I live with her and i'm at her beck and call- she is always unhappy unless we are doing what she wants to do. For example, I can never make plans with my friends and us go do things with them. She always somehow finds a way to do exactly, and only what she wants. She has been very sefish with me during the process of us moving in together. Demanding all of the closet space, etc. Just acting a little immature and selfish in general. I never saw this side of her when I was someone she was trying to "woo" - understand??

I feel sometimes like she is trying to manipulate things to benefit her. Just not always acting towards me as someone who just loves me and wants me to be happy would act. Being a bit selfish a lot of the time.

This leaves me thinking, ok, somehow I must get back to that state of her trying to woo me for me to have her respect agaain. Maybe she feels like she has me "locked down" and so she thinks she can walk all over me or whatever, Right?

But that is a silly thought for someone to be having who is 30 years old and 1 year into a romantic relationship. I shouldnt have to do that right?

So, what are your thoughts. I don't have any mental illnesses, that i know of. I am trying to understand how her disease (bipolar 2) may be manifesting and creating these situations im describing. is this common? will she be faithful - long term?

I could be totally off base but the things you've listed that have occurred since you started living together stem from her personality traits and her belief system. It doesn't stem from bipolar 2 disorder. The question isn't will she be faithful long term but rather can you handle these things long term. Unless you have a conversation with her about these things and reach some sort of compromise, it's unlikely to improve. Best wishes.

I agree with Jennifer1967 that the things you talk about are her personality traits. Nothing to do with being bipolar. You guys definitely need to talk about things. I hope things get better for you. ((Hugs))

Those things your describing is her personality, not her bi-polar.
She may well try and pass it off as that, but it isn't.
It's just her I'm afraid too say. Sounds like a text book case of now she has you her true colours are shining through.
Sorry.

I agree with the first reply. It doesn't sound like bipolar as much as it sounds like her personality OR, your perception of her personality. You don't sound happy in this relationship and I seem to recall you made some posts about this girl awhile back too that demonstrated the relationship might not be built on the most solid of foundations. Good luck.