Dating & Mental Illness

If you're dating someone, when is the right time to disclose your mental illness?

I always told after the second date IF there was going to be a third. I figured why waste my time and their time. I always asked if they had any questions and answered whatever they wanted to know.

Now my husband on the other hand said before me he never told until things got serious. But because I told him at the end of our second date when he was asking me out again he felt he had to tell me too.

I would rather date someone that has mental health issues too, You can relate to each other more, You have more in common, I would not want to date quote normal person per say ever again, They would never understand or ever get it, My boyfriend and I both have mental health issues and I could not be happier

After several dates where they get to know me and it looks like it might be going somewhere.

I believe we owe it to the individual to disclose our health from the onset. I

Usually I would wait til I feel that the other person is relaxed and knows me enough ask the appropriate questions)
Too early and they think your looking to settle Down, then panic and leave.
To late and they think you are hiding something.
So I usually wait for the, 'where is this going ?' Conversation.
It's also a common mis conception that someone withMH issues will understand you better, if you also have MI. I actually find them to be far more fixed. That their version, symptoms, methods of dealing are the correct ones.
Even if This isn't the case, often a crash can happen at the same time.
Subconsciously bringing each other down, mis reading each other, all the same things that apply in a normal relationship only the fallout can be much worse.

All relationships have these pit falls though. I just don't think 2 people with MI will automatically understand each other better.