How to relax in a relationship

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months. I've had bad experiences with men in the past and I have an 8year old child.

Him and I have just returned from a mini break holiday and we both had such a fantastic time but I feel i cannot relax in my relationship. I'm happy, he's a wonderful man but I keep wanting to pull away and push him away. I have anxiety which never helps anything.

Any help or advice please i hate feeling this way

If he has moved in to where you've been living, or if you've moved in to his pkace, that has happened too soon. Foir months is not long enough to really know someone. So you should not be totally relaxed around this new boyfriend. You don't know him well enough for that. You're getting ahead of yourself. You're trying to find a shortcut to feeling you have found "the one." There isn't any.

Four months is way too soon to feel comfortable with anyone. You are just learning who he is & what he's like & this is not the time to feel comfortable but you should be feeling aware of anything that would nit make this person a good partner especially taking into consideration your 8 year old son it the big picture as its not just about yiy & him but about you, your son & him to be totally aware of all those relationships & that is not something to be relaxed. Beware & be wise before ever getting involved to a deeper level. Relaxation comes with knowing a person. Thst just says you really dont know him.....even a year can be too soon especially if someone is more difficult to get to know. Dont push a feeling that isnt comibg naturally yet & dknt get fully involved until that feeling natirally occurs.

I agree that four months is a very short period of time but I also think your experiences with past relationships are causing anxiety as well. Take it easy, give it more time and see how it goes. Sending big hugs.

Hi there,

I think you need to put aside those anxieties and be a caring mother. Hopefully you can deal with the anxieties of caring for your child, and also have a fantastic relationship with your partner. Whether or not you can relax i hope you can bring down those stress levels.