[Eleny]

I have a great deal of energy and enthusiasm, I'm also impulsive and tend to act first and think later. I have two friends who are recent enough friends (our friendship has been building over the last 3 years) but now we are very close and have a whatsapp group that we talk in every day. The thing is, I send a lot of messages. If something happens or something funny or important comes into my head I send a ream of messages straight away and I'm starting to worry I'm going to drain them. I've noticed they don't always reply. I had a friend in the past who ended our friendship because I was not giving her enough space and she could not deal with the amount of messages I was sending. I have a huge fear this will happen again but I can't seem to control it. I wish I knew why I was this way! I can't seem to think a thought and be ok with keeping it to myself. I'm like an open book, I tell people everything. But I really wish I wasn't. I guess in a sense it's a boundaries issue.

Can anyone relate? Is there anything I can do to stop? It's so hard to control the urges.
Thank you

Could you instead write these messages into a journal for yourself? That way you could get it out, and nobody would feel overwhelmed.

[Fuzzybear]

I agree, maybe write some of the messages to yourself so that none of your friends feel overwhelmed. I hope your friendships grow in a healthy way and that your friends are kind, as you deserve

Also maybe share more on here, very few of us bite nice people
(At least not on purpose.. posting here may also help you learn more about boundaries)

[Sunflower123]

I agree with scaredandconfused and Fuzzy. Writing it down would be helpful in getting it out of your head so you're not preoccupied with it but not overwhelming your friends. I empathize with you. I have a tendency to text/call my daughter too much while she's at college and I've had to work hard to reign it in. Best wishes.