[lastresort]

Do you think its possible at 16... to find that one person ment for you... i think i have... but i am afraid to put my guard down due to a fear of him dumping me... and i just fear getting hert in the end... does anyone think i could have found my true love!?... is it even possible for that to happen at 16!? should i let my guard down!?

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[spal]

Anything is possible. The most important thing, however, is not whether this guy is the love of your life but whether he treats you well and loves you back. Time is the only thing that will tell if this relationship will last. Remember, love is behaviour, not just romantic words and sex. If he treats you well and you have fun with him, then let your guard down. This does not mean that you let this guy take over your life, it means sharing who you really are.

[jefftele]

i'll echo spal i'd say that personally i don't believe there is only one person for us in this life i'd say it is hard to find a good match though ,i refer to scott pecks stuff on love in the 'road less travelled' its very informative good luck and take your time!!

[magasanguis]

I'm a teenager, and while I definitely understand how you feel, I have a few opinions on teenage love I'd like to share with you.

I'd definitely believe true love exists, first of all, as a rare and beautiful thing for teenagers.

However, love and understanding go hand in hand. At this age, what makes dating so hard is the fact that everyone (especially the boys) is still growing and changing mentally and emotionally. You may totally connect with someone one day, then the next you have no idea why they're acting different or saying strange things.

So whether or not two teens are in it for the long haul depends on their mutual maturity. Each person must know themselves, ultimately. And unfortunately, teenagers (girls particularly) are more or less the ones who look for relationships as a way to cope with their own immaturity.

If that's not the case, and you're both mature people, then you've got a good shot at love.

Aside from that, I don't think you should worry about him dumping you. Not over "letting your guard down," since that's pretty much a necessity for a close relationship.

Best of luck to you!

[Perna]

I think it is harder to find a true, solid love without some experience and background. There will be lots and lots of branches up ahead for your tree so finding something during the "trunk" time will make it harder to navigate the branching. Higher education, jobs/careers, the other person's family and difficulty of establishing a home together, perhaps with children, are big branches less than 10 years away. But as spal says, the big thing is the guy. Love isn't one-way, that's only infatuation.

[lastresort]

we love each other... i love him more than anyone can understand... he's my everything... its not a infatuation... ilike him and he liked me... for watever reason... i used to not believe that things happen for a purpose... but maybe i was to have a crazy mom who wouldn't let me go to ASFA so i would find out how much thomas loves me... its hard to explain i gueese!!!

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[SeptemberMorn]

It can happen, it's certainly happened before, but if I was you, having not had a normal teenage life, I would wait until you finish school, get an education (like my mom used to say, "just in case"), enjoy life a bit before you settle down. At this time, you're also learning what your boundaries are, what makes you tick and solidifying what you really do want out of life and what you don't.

Take your time, Hon. No need to rush into anything.

[nothemama8]

little one, as Septembermorn said, take your time, falling in love is easy, keeping the love and being best friends is the hard part, enjoy your teen years

[50guy]

Do I think it's possible, yes. I got married at 16.

35 years later I still love her, not as intense but, commitment is still there. Would I be lost without her, No.

She is still my friend and occasional lover. We grew up together.

Would we do it agan, get married, no, we would have waited.

[SeptemberMorn]

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This is so very normal at your age! Some call it "puppy love" but in your heart, you KNOW it's the real thing. Unfortunately, it doesn't always work out that way.

At your age, when you first fall, you KNOW you'll never love this way again, and in many ways, it's true. Love is never as intense and all consuming as it is in the teenage years. But...

Both you and he are changing, growing. Even adults don't stay the same; they can grow apart easily.

Love isn't just this crazy, happy, fuzzy feeling. It's a lifetime committment of making things work, for better or for worse. It's a lifetime committment to showing your significant other that he means the world to you. But...

On the flipside of that, you have YOU to think about, also. You can't lose who you are or who you want to be because he's "your everything." You need a life of your own, experiences of your own, a career of your own, especially in this day and age.

Go ahead and feel the feelings, Hon. Enjoy every minute of it! Just be careful that you don't ruin the rest of your life with it. He can't and won't be you're whole world. He needs to expand his own horizons, too.

One last word of advice; having a baby WILL NOT make everything right. It only complicates everything because again, it's a lifetime committment for TWO! You need to be ready to accept lifetime committments, one at a time.

[lastresort]

we were friends first... in reallity i never saw him as more than a friend ... but last year we started talking more and more and it just kinda happened... he is my friend along with my love... he mkes me feel great... like i'm all that matters... i am the background on his phone... even if its last years pitchure and i look bad... he loves it doe... its not about sex or a phisical attraction... although it does help he's cute... we haven't made out yet due to the fact i "think" i suck... hr treats me like i'm important you know... like i'm the only one around... he's perfe ct and looks past my issues and my crazy mom... yesterday when i was upset over the fact i felt he was going to dump me because of my mom... he said he fell in love with me not my mom... then said i love you for you... not for your problems... he understand me from every area of my life... he's the only one who can tell when somethings wrong... i'm good at hidding it... i love him so very much!!!

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[youOme]

Once upon a time I was 16 as well. I was with a man who was a few years older and wiser, and in my mind I adored him. I claimed him as my one true love, the man I will marry and be with for the remainder of my life. I think it's normal to feel this way at this age because of the overwhelming amount of hormones and pheromones floating amidst. You have to take that feeling this way is apart of being a adolescent before actually making life altering decisions with this boy.

Now it isn't that it's impossible or that it surely to fail, because my uncle met his wife when he was 16 and she was 15 and they are still married, very in love, and have three children.

Love is unpredictable and hard work. If you truly loved one another then you'll work together to maintain the relationship for many years ahead. Good luck to the both of you.

[lastresort]

Our love has many trials trust me... my mom is crazy... she thinks i'm a ***** who sleeps with anyone who offers... that is a lie by the way... shes only met thomas once and hates him... she judged him on his outer apperance... witch isn't that bad...she doesn't knoow we are dating... and now our school is going crazy on us... they think we're going to have sex in the middle of the hallway... all we do is hug and kisss... not make out just kisss. and today i feel so emo like cutting my intire body... and we cant even talk without a teacher PDAing our asses... they all think that its a highschool love... that its all in lust...but its not... its hard for me to put my guard down at fear of getting hurt but with him i let it down... and were not the tippical highschool couple... the ones who sit there talking about being together forever constintly... we talked about it once... and i told him that it would be great to be with him forever... but we both agree that forever it so far away that we should thake it slow... i know its bad to fall in love at 16 but ihave and i hope it will last forever!!

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[magasanguis]

Well, I have a solution to your PDA-blaming. Just keep the touchy stuff to a minimum in school. Sure the teachers are judgemental, but hugging and kissing in school is a real harm to your image. School isn't the place for that kind of thing... It makes you look like you lack self control. Whether or not that is the case, school just isn't the place for that sort of thing.

Judgemental parents are another issue. I can't exactly advise you on that, since I have a pair of them myself.

[lastresort]

we don't see each other but at school... so its the only time i get to see my pothead... i love him so its kinda important... ilove him dis much(arms extended out)... he's perfect... my school sucks... i hope it burns down!!! i mean that too... if it does i wouldn't care... as long as me and him see each other!!!

[Sultrysorrow]

True love cannot survive without logical thinking.
Love can go from one extreme to the other in a matter of seconds. Weather it be passionate, sorrowful, violent or wreckless.
Which in the end is like a moth to the flame.
There must be a balance within yourself so that you're not totally consumed by this emotion. Or it will be your undoing for a short or long duration.