I called an old friend from school and we talked a bit about university and he expressed his insecurity about his major, telling me he'll decide as he starts studying.
I couldn't help but help him out on that, telling him I have a feeling he wants X rather than Y. He even spoke more confidently when he expressed agreement with me. Along my advice I told him that eventually he'll have to see on his own.
I continued to help him and then he just said "Well, I'll see you at university", as if it may have been uncomfortable for him.
While I'm not sure about this I am a little concerned. I had some anxiety when calling him since we haven't spoken for a long time. Add the fact that I am searching for re-connections with people since I've been alone for some time.

I don't know if I was condescending but I didn't mean to. I just let out what I had to let out without holding inside, and I had my feelings and sensitivities in play, too.

Can someone help me out on this?

[BleedTheFreak]

He said he'll decide as he starts studying. All you did by saying "you'll have to see on your own" was confirm what he said. I wouldn't look too deeply into him saying "I'll see you at university."

Condescension also depends a lot on tone, so without that, it's harder to decipher. I think you're okay, though.

[Shazerac]

It doesn't sound to me your being condescending in this case. It's good to keep that in mind though, it shows you a caring person, and you want help

[RainyDay107]

Not condescending but perhaps you came across as, possibly, a bit presumptuous that your friend wanted all that feedback/input.

It sounds like you were helpful, although a lot of times we just want an understanding friend to listen.

But it’s likely fine, I’d not worry about it. Contact them if it will put you at ease...but I think it’s fine either way. It sounds like they will see you at school and that’s soon enough.

I can relate to what you’re saying. I normally don’t give advice, I’m a listener—but if I become hypomanic (not saying you are)....I have an opinion on everything, lol, and I’m fine sharing it.

Your posts here are helpful. Don’t worry about this one. Also, it was over the phone...they could have been tired or distracted beforehand.

[ReptileInYourHead]

People used to give me a lot of advice, I was once quite meek and unconfident.
Friends and family saw that and would give me detailed advice, they would tell me exactly what I should say or do in a situation. Advice is good but sometimes people give too much advice, and may make the other person feel like the advisor has no real confidence in the advisees ability to make their own choices.
This is totally personal, not saying this is what happened in your situation.
You did say “I kept helping him” though, and that’s when he cut off the conversation right?

oh f*** it, I just tried connecting with him, I'm sick of being so worried about those small things.

[MickeyCheeky]

That's good. Either way, you seem like a caring person, so I wouldn't worry about it

[ReptileInYourHead]

That works too. Assigning too much meaning to small events can be counterproductive, but at the same time, many of us inspect our behaviours closely, actions and reactions to see patterns of behaviours and the subtle tendencies that we cannot normally control.
Many of us here have been advised to closely observe ourselves, and it can make mountains out of molehills sometimes.
Obsidian, there is a hundred different reasons why he said what he said, but you are right, F it, who cares? You tried to reconnect, you offered your help, these are all positive things.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by ReptileInYourHead

That works too. Assigning too much meaning to small events can be counterproductive, but at the same time, many of us inspect our behaviours closely, actions and reactions to see patterns of behaviours and the subtle tendencies that we cannot normally control.
Many of us here have been advised to closely observe ourselves, and it can make mountains out of molehills sometimes.
Obsidian, there is a hundred different reasons why he said what he said, but you are right, F it, who cares? You tried to reconnect, you offered your help, these are all positive things.

I agree. Is he treating you differently?