[angiezachie]

I'm currently in a semi-long distant relationship. We are separated by one state and it's only a 2 hour drive at most. But I don't have a car yet and my boyfriend got into an accident months ago and is currently working to get another one. So, the distance has been getting to me but with all my worries and assumptions nothing gets easier. He has told me a few "stories" before.(lies but not bad ones) For example, he told me he didn't see his ex best friend in a romantic way but they were friends for two years and everyone would tell them to "get together" and they were gonna try but then he met me and I was the one that saved him from "settling" (lack of better words). But when that story was brought up recently he denied it and said I made it up and that he'd never give her a chance because he didn't have attraction for her. There's a million little stories like that that he's denied or messed up remembering. I think he only said those things to make me feel special or something.

But then there are times where I'll text him and my texts will say delivered, and he will come back hours later saying his phone died. This happened a lot but there were occasions where his phone was really dead and my texts didn't say delivered. (we both have iphones) so I brought that little technology fact up and he denied it and continued to say his phone was dead. Those little weird hiccups make me that much more iffy about him.

He has cheated on ex girlfriends before but his excuse was because they cheated on him. Then the story changed to just one ex girlfriend. And he's admitted to being a "professional liar" which wasn't a thing a girlfriend wants to hear. I bring up those worries and he says he wouldn't do that to me because I've been nothing but good to him and never betrayed him.

I sometimes feel he just knows how to sweet talk a woman and is playing me but other times I feel like he's being sincere. I can never tell if I'm just overthinking or my gut is saying something.

We were friends/flirting for three months and currently dating for almost 6 months now. If anybody can put their honest opinion in I would really appreciate it. If there needs to be more clarification I will add whatever necessary.

[Bill3]

My opinion is that your gut is saying something.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, considering everything he said and how he acts, I think you have a reason to be worried..
Perhaps you should try to bring up these concerns with him, but since he's a "professional liar" I don't know how helpful that would be.. :/

[Trippin2.0]

I would go with my gut on this one.

[Grizabella]

I'm sorry, but it sounds to me like he is completely untrustworthy. Personally, I would end the relationship.

[Shazerac]

I think I answered this is another post you made. I would trust my gut on this one.

Yes, same as the others. I don't think he's trustworthy - go with your gut. When he says he is a professional liar, believe him. And don't believe he's not lying to you just because he says he wouldn't. That phone dying excuse multiple times is BS. Even if an iPhone runs out of charge, you get the messages when it is charged again.

[~Christina]

He has shown who he really is .... Follow your gut he is not a trust worthy person.

[Sunflower123]

There is a saying - when someone shows you their true colors...believe them. Go with your gut.

[FallDuskTrain]

You asked for honesty so here it is: he is not trust worthy; go with your gut feeling and move on as soon as you can. It seems you have already compromised a lot.

[angiezachie]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Well, considering everything he said and how he acts, I think you have a reason to be worried..
Perhaps you should try to bring up these concerns with him, but since he's a "professional liar" I don't know how helpful that would be.. :/

I have numerously brought up concerns but I only second guess myself because if I have a problem with any girl for any reason he immediately blocks her from all his accounts/phone. He shows me off in real life and online, when we go out I never catch him looking at other girls. That's why I always feel like the distance is getting to me and maybe he is being honest but who knows if he just likes to deny deny deny.

[angiezachie]

Originally Posted by golden_eve

Yes, same as the others. I don't think he's trustworthy - go with your gut. When he says he is a professional liar, believe him. And don't believe he's not lying to you just because he says he wouldn't. That phone dying excuse multiple times is BS. Even if an iPhone runs out of charge, you get the messages when it is charged again.

When you text an iPhone that is off/dead your messages won't say "delivered." But mine did and his phone was apparently dead for three hours meanwhile all my texts said delivered. He claims his macbook must've been the reason my texts said that because it could possibly get his texts there? But every now and then when we facetime and his phone dies mid way I'll text him and the messages won't deliver until his phone turns back on. So I don't know how to get the truth out of him without him constantly denying.

[angiezachie]

Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain

You asked for honesty so here it is: he is not trust worthy; go with your gut feeling and move on as soon as you can. It seems you have already compromised a lot.

Do you know how I can somehow get him to confess whats really going on? I'm seeing him next week and I don't want to live a lie with him.