Is it wrong to look up to people

I hear you and everyone's doing a really good job.

It's nice to see ruby2011 has accepted the situation and is taking steps to change things as well, which is great.

We're proud of you ruby2011!

Except she hasn't accepted it.

Well, a few posts back ruby2011 said to FallDuskTrain:

"Really? There were people like that? I figured there might be, which is why I’m stopping right now. It seems imperative that I stop given how urgent."

'Stopping' as in stopping her behavior. Good on her.

Time will tell if she has accepted it or not.

Mote.Of.Soul Ruby began this thread back on October 7th. Only today has she said that she was going to stop that behavior. For four months and one day she didn't see what she was doing was getting her the wrong attention. We all hope that she see's that now.

I second this. We all have been working very hard since October ( both on this and other thread) to help Ruby recognize the consequences of her actions. We have done so because we care about her and we do not want her to end up in jail. She has been very lucky thus has not ended up getting arrested.
We all hope that she will find inner peace and concentrates on more constructive behavior.
Ruby, we are here for you and we want to help you in your recovery.

My case manager talked to the supervisor of that store. It turned out the GM ain't got a restraining order this time around but she will the if I ever go back into that store again. So I haven't been back in several weeks and I take different routes when I go places so I never pass by there. So far, I hardly even think about the GM or that store.

That's good to hear, Ruby. I want to stress though that you did not have to allow it to get this far. At any point in this situation you could have made other choices, to obey the rules, then to not go back in the store, that would not have ended up here.

Try to learn from this. Remember, in your work, to obey the rules. If you are given direction instructions, obey them, even if you disagree with them (unless they're illegal, of course). And remember to respect other people's boundaries, and you will find that you are able to have the relationships that you want.

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