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Oct 10, 2017, 09:16 AM
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I have this friend she is constantly silently shaming me(when she had to live with us, yes I know what silent shaming is would give me rude looks and ignore me). She sometimes shames me in text too. She shames me because I'm not like her, her parents give her $500 a week and she makes $300 at her job. She calls me screw up because I can't make money, no ID and I can't drive(I can't afford lessons) and because I do not live near public transportation(it's 30 miles away). How do I get her to stop calling me that?
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Oct 10, 2017, 09:32 AM
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Have you come right out and told to cut the crap? My question is why are "you friends" with her. It sounds like an abusive relationship more than a friendship to me.
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Oct 10, 2017, 09:41 AM
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Oct 10, 2017, 10:05 AM
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Then tell her that you don't want to spend time with her and that you're not friend with her anymore. If she continues, block her. You deserve better..
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Oct 10, 2017, 10:08 AM
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Oh, Hon...I'm sorry if this is too blunt, but, for what this is worth....you need to create a new life for yourself. One that doesn't include that "friend" I am unable to make my own money either (number of reasons behind this) but, having said goodbye recently to my oldest friendship n feeling RELIEF when it ended, I'm here to support n say, you deserve better!
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#6
Oct 10, 2017, 11:30 AM
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I am constantly amazed by how so many people seem to know about each others financial affairs on here.
Maybe it's a cultural thing, but here you just wouldn't dream of asking, or telling how much they/you make. Even my closest dearest friends and family, I wouldn't enquire, neither would they offer the information. It has no bearing on our relationships. To the OP, if your not really friends anymore, block her number and delete her texts unread. And perhaps you could point out that obviously money couldn't buy her manners.
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#7
Oct 10, 2017, 11:35 AM
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I agree with the others.... just don't reply to this so called friend's texts anymore, and if it continues, tell them you want to cut contact. You deserve FAR better. True friends treat each other with kindness, love, understanding and compassion. ((((hugs))))
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Oct 10, 2017, 03:39 PM
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Why does this person live with you ?
I also am confused about people running there mouth about the income. If she is making that money why is she living at your home? Im confused... Is this the girl that has been treating your terrible for a long time?
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Oct 10, 2017, 04:43 PM
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Oct 10, 2017, 04:52 PM
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Hi, I am so sorry you had to put up with this kind of stuff. Sometimes we put up with more than we should to keep a friendship. I know, I did that for years. I finally put an end to the friendship about 2 years ago. The last straw was when I went on SSD. My "friend" was working. She accused me of being lazy and just getting disability so I wouldn't have to work, and that I was really still capable of working. Well, not long after this, her brother passed away and left her with a lot of money. The first thing she did was stop working! I saw the hypocrisy and said ok, enough. I stopped contact with her and although I am friendless now, it is still better than being abused. Be good to yourself, you deserve better treatment. And remember, someone who abuses you is telling you volumes about who they are and nothing about who you are!
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Oct 10, 2017, 05:24 PM
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She had no where to go ????? Yet her parents are supporting her??? With her income she should be getting her own place. Until then you just need to try and ignore her bullshyt. You be the grown up and let her nonsense slide off of you .
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Oct 10, 2017, 05:29 PM
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Oct 11, 2017, 04:41 AM
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She’s not your friend. You deserve so much better. You only have her word for what she’s making. Block her on text and move on to someone more worthy of your time and attention.
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Oct 11, 2017, 06:58 PM
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This person lives in Koolz house... I just dont understand why ??? Her parents are giving her tons of money.. The OP has problems with this person for a long time. 
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