question:

how do you respond when someone says to you, well.. I know how your life can be improved- you just need a partner.

I thought are you okay was annoying, but this question takes the biscuit.

responding with, " I don't want anyone right now" usually fails to work

[Sunflower123]

The nerve of some people. You could just say something generic like “I’m not looking right now but I’ll keep that in mind” and just move on. Hopefully they’ll get the hint.

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

The nerve of some people. You could just say something generic like “I’m not looking right now but I’ll keep that in mind” and just move on. Hopefully they’ll get the hint.

I have the same problem as sanity. They don't. I try to make a joke out of it. (not really a joke) As sort of a long standing joke i pretend that I hate all humans and everyone knows that. And I am anti social.

It isn't a GREAT strategy but it is all I have been left.

What bothers me is that what people really mean.. when they say *you just need a partner* you just need someone to make me feel happy, not you.

Often the people in my life that say these things always want to put me with someone absolutely unacceptable for me and I don't know where they get off.

If there is someone great around they always keep me a way and use them for their own purposes.

Originally Posted by Jennifer 1967

The nerve of some people. You could just say something generic like “I’m not looking right now but I’ll keep that in mind” and just move on. Hopefully they’ll get the hint.

I think it's a crazy idea that a partner will improve your mental health.

some people just like to be alone. that's that

[divine1966]

People like to ask crap.

I've been told the kind of nonsense many times in my life. I had plenty of time periods in my life when I absolutely had no time for dating. Ex. Work all day, in grad school at night, have a teen at home and have involved hobby (the kind of where you compete and exhibit etc) and friends and family demanding of my time. No way no how I had even one night a week to go on a date. Yet people were repeatedly asking why I am not dating.

I was asked why I wasn't getting married. No amount of explanations that I am divorced and have no intentions to remarry that quick helped. Ugh. Oh when I did marry second time people asked why I wasn't having a big wedding ugh ugh

I'd ignore questions and change the topic. People are nosy!!

[scorpiosis37]

That's really annoying. I get asked that sometimes, too. I don't have time to date right now (working long hours, taking care of ill parents, haven't even finished unpacking from my recent move). I don't even have time to get enough sleep, yet people ask why I'm not out there trying to meet someone. Nothing seems to stop the questions. I just say "I'm not interested in dating right now" and try to change the subject.

[s4ndm4n2006]

the idea that everything for everyone would be better with a partner is ludicrous and very presumptuous. Not everyone wants that nor is it always the best answer. I'd just tell them "I appreciate your input" dont' elaborate, don't respond with anything that could make it anything more than them giving you uninvited advice. Keep your answers short and just let it go.

[MickeyCheeky]

It must be very annoying. Try to give a quick answer, perhaps try to change subject.

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

question:

how do you respond when someone says to you, well.. I know how your life can be improved- you just need a partner.

I thought are you okay was annoying, but this question takes the biscuit.

responding with, " I don't want anyone right now" usually fails to work

"I prefer ways to cope which don't involve someone else"
"I prefer to not be given unsolicited advice"

[eskielover]

Lol....I drive a big truck which is a guy magnet (not me). Had an older guy talking to me while I was pumping gas into my truck the other night at a gas station in town. First line is always "nice truck" but then it like are you single. Lol I use the "separated not divorced" to keep the distance (lol probably will even after divorce is final). The "you seem like a nice person" line is always entertaining especially when they don't even know me....after a few more comments on his part I finally said, after 33 years in a bad marriage I like my life exactly the way it is.....alone.....Not interested.