[mymask]

I find I don't like people who talk a lot. I find it hard to pay attention to them and my mind starts wandering and I get a bit anxious or restless. But on the other hand very quiet people make me uncomfortable also. I feel I am quiet and don't talk much, but I like people who are outgoing so I don't have to "work" so hard or really do anything. I realize what I am describing is a dichotomy, so I am confused. But people who talk a lot really bug me and sometimes I just want to walk away but force myself not to. I feel there are a lot of people who just keep going on and on......Anyone else????

Originally Posted by mymask

I feel there are a lot of people who just keep going on and on....

At times, I can be guilty of this. My thoughts will come and I will speak them before fully thinking them through. I even started a thread vowing to have more meaningful and purposeful conversations (https://forums.psychcentral.com/self...versation.html)
When it is bad, I am sure it is annoying. Taking enough medication helps me with this but I don't always choose to take enough. Though I am not like this all of the time. Sometimes I can even be pleasant to be with, it just takes a bit of effort to keep it in check.

[Crazy Hitch]

I'm not always great at striking up a new conversation/topic with someone I don't know, so it does really help if I'm speaking to a rather talkative person.

I think speaking to outgoing / introverts both have their positives and negatives

[Agent Misty]

Even though I may not listen intently to every little thing they say, I personally enjoy people who talk a lot. I am introverted and shy, but people who are very chatty and outgoing are much easier for me to talk to than people who are more like myself.

Originally Posted by mymask

I find I don't like people who talk a lot. I find it hard to pay attention to them and my mind starts wandering and I get a bit anxious or restless. But on the other hand very quiet people make me uncomfortable also. I feel I am quiet and don't talk much, but I like people who are outgoing so I don't have to "work" so hard or really do anything. I realize what I am describing is a dichotomy, so I am confused. But people who talk a lot really bug me and sometimes I just want to walk away but force myself not to. I feel there are a lot of people who just keep going on and on......Anyone else????

You don't have to follow everything they say. Sometimes people talk allot to vent all the intense thoughts in their minds for instance. It's sometimes a matter of a selfish purpose to just project unto people, with no actual need to heed it all.

[mymask]

Maybe with me it is more of an ADHD thing. I have a hard time focusing on a lot of things, even small tasks.

[dlantern]

I'd say, I would caution to identify what is important to you in social circles. Is this group of folks, my type, is this a place for me. I like to learn what type people I'm going to be among and will my needs get meet. I know for some places that is hard to determine if it isn't going to be set like new folks all the time. It might actually depend on the structure of the leads. It can be a onoging problem for us though we make sure we disperse our time else where because we can't all in one fell swoop think we are going to gel in this amount of time. I'd like for some things to stay separate until something seems uncomfortable.

I'm working towards more inner peace, resist the need to always having to identify with folks to get your needs meet. Unless this is a practice group of socializing uplifting each as peers.

And in what manner are you conversing yourself?

I am guilty of talking too much. It is the silence that causes me to do so. It makes me feel awkward and uncomfortable. So, when I finish saying something and the other person doesn't immediately take their turn I go ahead and talk some more. So this is why I ask what is your own participation level in a conversation? Do you make full opportunity of the natural lulls to chime in?