Bitter, heartbroken, betrayed, lied to and sad

Does the above chatroom have a name? How can I access it?

Click on chats above, the one I went to was called emotional support

It´s very possible to be in love with two people at once, to love two people just as much. It´s a silly thing to be so upset over. Unless he said he no longer loves you of course, that´d be very saddening.

Why is that silly? It hurts like HELL. What's upsetting are the lies he fed me. He told me he was the luckiest guy in the world to have me, that he felt like he won the lottery, then it turns out he is hung up on his ex this whole time and is still lamenting over the loss of HER. We were even engaged to be married at one point. It's the lying and the betrayal that hurts..... and that he told me he loved her more. How could he say that to me???? Who the hell says that kind of thing? I know it was meant to hurt me because he was mad at me, but still.

Honestly my guess would be that he said that because he knew it would hurt you, and it was not at all a nice thing to say.

How have you been lately? When I broke up with my ex that reminds me of yours, I would break down crying at night for the first week or so after breaking up. But things got better after. Just give it time and allow yourself to grieve. This is a loss, after all.

TY..... it is a loss. I am not doing well. I am obsessing over this, I cannot stop thinking about it, and I cannot let go. The pain is too great. I think he did say that just to hurt me, and it worked.

I have drafted an email and keep working on it in case he does get in touch with me. It basically is to confront him on all his lies and to tell him in no way shape or form is he worthy of me.

My best girlfriend tells me the best response is NO response, if he does get in touch. That that would be the biggest and best F you to him. So I am thinking on that.

In the meantime, it just hurts and I feel like I've wasted my year and my heart on him, not to mention loads of money I spent to see him and take care of him. He didn't even appreciate it -- or me, fully. Hopefully he will once he sees I am gone FOR GOOD.

Do people here think that the best response is NO RESPONSE if he does try to get in touch with me? I have called multiple psychics, and they all tell me that he will try to get back together with me. I want to send the biggest "F YOU" that I can......

I don't think you should respond to him for a long while. You are to emotional about him still. You do not want to break down in front of him and you will not have enough control over yourself to manage the situation well. Perhaps it will be OK to talk to him later after a lot of time has passed and you can see things more clearly.

I agree with Hopingtrying.

this is a good point..... that is why I am crafting an email that is not emotional, but matter of fact. With a lot of emphasis on certain words.

The best response is no response in your circumstances. If you are leaving long term relationship or marriage you should elaborate. In the case of this guy I think it’s not worth your energy.

There is no point to explain anything to him. He is the kind of person who thinks it’s nice to tell a girlfriend that he loved other woman more (mean or stupid?) and the kind of person who is ok mooching off a woman, then there is no need to explain anything to him. He knows what he is doing. Your explanation will not accomplish anything.

No offense but looking for relationship advice from psychic isn’t probably the best. They’ll take your money and what do they know. They don’t know you.

And if you feel anger, the best revenge is living well. Live a good life. That’s your revenge. His life is a mess but yours will be better

Yes, I did the no response at all and it was very effective.

Unfortunately, I found out he'd been unfaithful.

I was pretty angry, to say the least. I felt such a fool. Yes, I dropped him from the moment he admitted it. Bam. That's it. I wouldn't even let our mutual friends mention his name.

No contact at all for over a year.

The best thing about this approach is, you really do let go. If you're still in touch, your heart might keep on secretly hoping that things will somehow work out.

I can't say I was happy during that time. But I did feel strong. And I did keep talking about the break up to everyone constantly. But I found that people understood.

I also feel he will try to get back with you.

I started dating during that time. I didn't plan to. I was really not impressed by men at that point. But a couple of nice ones wanted to hang out with me, so I said yes. (I wasn't sleeping with them, just going out). One of them turned out to be more interesting than I'd realised, and...

Well, OK, he was quite crazy this one, but he certainly took my mind off things! And very quickly. So, about two months after I'd dropped my ex, the new guy was the only thing I was thinking about.

Sorry for all the detail.

I just wanted to show how the zero contact thing worked for me. If I hadn't done it, I might not have felt so strong so quickly.

Big hugs.

Yeah I am not sure???? A part of me wants to confront him on how crappy of a person he truly is --- and with all his lies. He deserves to know that I know the whole truth. I want to confront him. I want to kick him where it counts and tell him that is not worthy of me in any way.

I want him to hurt as badly as I do.

The psychics are very therapeutic for me, and typically have been right about everything. They help me gain insight and to feel better.

Thanks, Hoping. I am sorry you got so hurt, you didn't deserve it, but that kind of response makes sense in that case.

I just want him to HURT. I want to let him know that i see him for the con artist that he truly IS. I want to let him know that he doesn't deserve me. One psychic told me that with no response, he will think I am just mad at him.

You'll do whatever you need to do. That will be the right response.

Therapists would probably be for expressing your rage. There's a lot to be said for it.

Personally, I think being absolutely blanked implies most of the things you're wanting to say to him.

Yeah, I suppose that I will do what's right and best for me. My rage is deep. I did not deserve this. I deserve sooooo much better. I gave all of myself to someone who did not deserve it.

I am feeling slightly better, but only because I know that I deserve FAR better than what that scam artist gave me.

Really glad you're feeling slightly better.

You're an absolute star,

Hugs.

You’re an inspiration

Life is going to be better!

Thank you Purple, Fuzzy and Divine. Thank you very much. It is going to get better.