[LiteraryLark]

I admit it, I'm an absolute slob.

My grandparents are always on me about me making a mess. My Papa just warned me that I will be banned from using the downstairs bathroom because I get water on the counters and not clean it up after I wash my hands. The sinks are very low and when I wash my hands the splatter gets everywhere. And if I shake off my hands in the sink, it gets all over the counters, but if I wait to dry it off on the towel, it gets all over the floor. I know I should just stick to the upstairs bathroom that my parents use where the sinks are higher and less likely to get the water everywhere. They already told me to stay out of that bathroom while they are sleeping because the sound of the toilet flushing wakes them up. So I should just stay out of that bathroom.

And now I have to be on top of keeping my room clean. We have a lot of guests that come in and out of the house and I can't have my room a mess (like it always has been at home). To me it's exhausting to constantly clean my room, but I know I have to.

There's a lot of little things I do that make me a slob. I don't try to intentionally be a slob or make people upset, but I do have trouble keeping things clean and neat and orderly and I do things without thinking of the consequences. My Papa is even going to the lengths to teach me how to eat properly...he thinks I eat like a savage and very unladylike.

I'm not sure what to do. I know I have bad manners and I am a slob, but I'm not sure how to correct this. Do you have tips to make me a little more mindful about how I pick up after myself? I'm no longer at home where I can act however I'd like...I share a house with six people and I know it's disrespectful to not make the effort to pick up after myself but I don't know where to begin.

[BreakForTheLight]

Sorry I can't give much practical advice but I'm sure there's plenty of people who can help you with that

One thing that does work for me is to not see keeping the place tidy as a chore mostly for other people that might come into the house, but as taking Care of myself. I feel calmer when I'm in a tidy room. If I look around me and all I see is a complete mess, that's not a very positive feeling.

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by BreakForTheLight

Sorry I can't give much practical advice but I'm sure there's plenty of people who can help you with that

One thing that does work for me is to not see keeping the place tidy as a chore mostly for other people that might come into the house, but as taking Care of myself. I feel calmer when I'm in a tidy room. If I look around me and all I see is a complete mess, that's not a very positive feeling.

That's actually very helpful. When I clean I think of how happy it will make my parents when they see how nice and neat everything looks...and I do get a lot of grief at home when I have to keep my doors shut when guests are over. To be honest, I know even when my room is a complete disaster it doesn't take all that long to pick everything up.

For me, I enjoy organizing and reorganizing, move things here, put things there...I did a LOT of that the first week of moving in with my grandparents.

I think I need to set rules for myself...I thought about asking my Papa what he would recommend I do...but I have a feeling he will say, "It's common sense. Pick up after yourself and there won't be an issue". But I need goals and a routine to strive for. He's already teaching me table etiquette, but I need help recognizing what is so obvious to most people.

[divine1966]

My daughter is kind of a slob. She can’t stsnd living in a mess but she has hard time managing it. I think it might improve with age. The difference is she doesn’t live with me, she is grown up and on her own. So it’s her business now. I think since you live with family you have to do whats important for them. My husband is kind of a natural slob. But he keeps the house tidy because I can’t stand mess. So do it for your family