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Old Oct 29, 2017, 05:45 PM
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I find this very hard to do, especially in my home.

I'd love to have people over and my child's friends over to play but the thought of it fills be with dread.

I always go to other peoples houses etc as I just find it easier than having people at mine. There is nothing bad about where I live. It's a nice area and my house is nice and clean and tidy etc.

At a push my parents will come over if they're passing but only for about an hour but they entire time I just can't stand people being here in my space.

I'd love to have my boyfriend over, we've been dating for a little while now but I know I'd just never be able to relax.

How can I overcome this?

Why do I feel this way?
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Old Oct 30, 2017, 03:57 AM
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What's the worst thing that can happen if they come over? What is it exactly that makes you so apprehensive about your bf coming over?

I'm just trying to get a better perspective of where you're coming from as there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with your place. So I don't think it's a 'physical' housing issue.
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Old Oct 30, 2017, 04:06 AM
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How do you feel exactly when people come over at your house?
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Old Oct 30, 2017, 04:00 PM
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Thanks for the replies I just feel so uncomfortable having anyone over
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Old Oct 30, 2017, 06:20 PM
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I think the only way, is to gradually let people over for a short while. Wouldn't it be great for your child to have a friend round for a bit. While her friend is round, you can distract yourself, make it comfortable for your child's friend, be a good host, imagine it's like a job you have to do. Your child will be so happy you did and then you can take it from there. Otherwise I would suggest psychotherapy for this issue to get to the bottom of the reasons why and learn ways to cope with it.
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Old Oct 30, 2017, 08:40 PM
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I like what pegasus says. Kind of like exposure therapy. A little bit at a time. Best wishes.
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Old Oct 31, 2017, 03:47 PM
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Thanks everyone!
I do remember when I was younger in my teenage years I never wanted anyone in my bedroom but that was more of a privacy thing I guess?
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