[Ototot]

My support worker is saying unacceptable things to me she said "how much of this is laziness?" "I seen how you were able to take the parcel to the delivery shop with me you can do it on your own. "Actually she doesn't know how I'm feeling inside and other times I can't even speak up at the chemist. And she said "now you know how J feels to be judged" and said some other stuff about me being unwilling to walk to high street to do things because I got support to do it next day. And she said "you're manipulating me into taking my badge off in public" "how do you know your friend isn't manipulating you into getting rid of J" and then saying Js actions are fine , that she would have done the same too which was call the NHS to ask for my clinical records. And other people say Js actions are illegal. I don't know if I should tell my care coordinator about this because the care coordinator OT might take sides with the support worker and use it against me and accuse me of being lazy. My friend said I'm not lazy because I workout at gym. I need the support workers statement because she was present at PIP disability interview assessment and she can provide vital evidence for my disability claim but actually I know how manipulative she can be from what she has been saying to me and I'm kind of fuming and don't know if I should see this worker in order to get written statement from her and if she can see how angry and upset I am with her she will point blank refuse to write anything or choose to be unhelpful in her wording. And if I tell care coordinator about all this she may turn against me and say I'm lazy too. I don't know what to do. Please advise.

Also my support worker said I was superficial for saying I upgraded to someone younger and slimmer than J. Then the worker said when i addressed it with her she said "that's superficial " and another time the worker said "I can throw a strong punch if you were to hit me I would hit back" I have never threatened her with violence but I said if the worker hadn't been there when J was leaving it would have escalated into violence. So I would just like perspective on things how to approach because I don't want care coordinator using it against me that the worker said I'm lazy but I really do need a statement from the worker who I really detest and don't know how I'm going to get through it.

[Ototot]

I am afraid to tell care care coordinator about J trying to get information on my clinical records because previously a care coordinator deliberately tried to wind me up by sending a letter to me outlining my mental health and self harming some sort of rationale. She deliberately sent out a letter for my advocate to read when I told her my landlord was blocking my letter box with his car and Post was getting into his house. The only reason for telling care coordinator this would be to let her know how unhelpful the worker is to me by saying "I would have done the same " (called NHS to find clinical information on me)

[pegasus]

You really have got to share with the care coordinator OT. The care coordinator needs to know what the support worker has been saying to you. The support worker's behavior is totally unacceptable and unprofessional and the Care Coordinator needs to know that. I know you are worried about a statement from this worker, share your concern about that with the Care Coordinator also. In fact you could even share this post you've written here because that explains everything. The support worker is being abusive and threatening towards you and that is something that definitely needs to be put right, not just for you but also for any other clients this worker is abusing.

[Ototot]

Will my care coordinator think I'm lazy too?

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by Ototot

Will my care coordinator think I'm lazy too?

No that's not how a professional mental health worker thinks. Honestly your support worker needs to be reported.

[hope4deb]

Originally Posted by Ototot

My support worker is saying unacceptable things to me she said "how much of this is laziness?" "I seen how you were able to take the parcel to the delivery shop with me you can do it on your own. "Actually she doesn't know how I'm feeling inside and other times I can't even speak up at the chemist. And she said "now you know how J feels to be judged" and said some other stuff about me being unwilling to walk to high street to do things because I got support to do it next day. And she said "you're manipulating me into taking my badge off in public" "how do you know your friend isn't manipulating you into getting rid of J" and then saying Js actions are fine , that she would have done the same too which was call the NHS to ask for my clinical records. And other people say Js actions are illegal. I don't know if I should tell my care coordinator about this because the care coordinator OT might take sides with the support worker and use it against me and accuse me of being lazy. My friend said I'm not lazy because I workout at gym. I need the support workers statement because she was present at PIP disability interview assessment and she can provide vital evidence for my disability claim but actually I know how manipulative she can be from what she has been saying to me and I'm kind of fuming and don't know if I should see this worker in order to get written statement from her and if she can see how angry and upset I am with her she will point blank refuse to write anything or choose to be unhelpful in her wording. And if I tell care coordinator about all this she may turn against me and say I'm lazy too. I don't know what to do. Please advise.

Also my support worker said I was superficial for saying I upgraded to someone younger and slimmer than J. Then the worker said when i addressed it with her she said "that's superficial " and another time the worker said "I can throw a strong punch if you were to hit me I would hit back" I have never threatened her with violence but I said if the worker hadn't been there when J was leaving it would have escalated into violence. So I would just like perspective on things how to approach because I don't want care coordinator using it against me that the worker said I'm lazy but I really do need a statement from the worker who I really detest and don't know how I'm going to get through it.

I am a support worker. I also happen to have a lot more education and training than the typical support worker but support workers only need 10 months training here in Canada. That's not much. Your support worker needs to be reported so she can get the help and education she needs. Trust the coordinator to help you. They are chosen carefully as people who can deal with problems like this. You're doing great. Don't let yourself be defined by someone else's lack of knowledge. I'm proud of you for continuing to get the support you feel you need. You know yourself best!

[Ototot]

Thanks everyone for your advice and understanding. I sent a copy of the first response to care coordinator by email for her to know worker has been abusive and threatening. Xxx

[pegasus]

Originally Posted by Ototot

Thanks everyone for your advice and understanding. I sent a copy of the first response to care coordinator by email for her to know worker has been abusive and threatening. Xxx

Good job!

[Sunflower123]

Good for you for reaching out for help. I hope everything goes smoothly.

[Ototot]

Care coordinator didn't ask name of support worker. Said support worker might have been having bad day. Asked me if I had argument with worker. I hadn't and have never shown anger towards her, only to J in front of worker. Care coordinator not taking any action. I text care company saying don't ever send this worker again. They didn't even ask why....

[Ototot]

Just wondering why care coordinator is protecting support worker she said maybe worker is feeing pressured into writing pip statement I said no because this all happened before assessment in early August

[Ototot]

Care coordinator just making excuses for support worker. Feeling a bit angry....like coordinator isn't doing her job properly not taking appropriate action. Well I can't tell coordinator what to do or put her in her place cause then it will ruin therapeutic relationship

[pegasus]

I would just sit tight for a minute. I bet your care coordinator is dealing with things behind the scenes. I think also you had a good idea in contacting the Care company.

You can also go to the care coordinator's higher up if you don't feel heard.

[Ototot]

Well if I start contacting coordinators supervisor coordinator is not going to be happy. If I have issue with coordinator I should show respect and address with her first then if I remain dissatisfied contact her supervisor. I suppose it's not really important to me if support worker gets disciplined or not, just get rid, refuse to see her, walk away. Pegasus, you have a very good point there- coordinator might be taking action behind the scenes because she knows the support worker went to PIP assessment with me so perhaps she has idea of who I am talking about if she were to talk to care agency manager....

[Ototot]

I love my care coordinator OT I can't help feeling love, romantic, sexual feelings towards her and I want to show her respect and the last thing I want to do is upset her or make her uncomfortable. Well she's fine to work continue working with me and said she's not uncomfortable about my transference as long as I don't act on it.

I can't help but feel annoyed with her for example there's been times when she wouldn't answer my question and answer by asking me a question such as I said "how do I stop feeling self conscious in a dress?" Silence on phone. Followed by "how did you cope before?" OT said "how did you cope before " again when I said "have you ever dealt with sexualised transference?" And then 3 days ago I said to her "can I ask a silly question " she said yes so I said "can you tell me why I should continue living?" And she says "why do you think you should continue living?" Well I am annoyed by her asking me a question when I have just asked her and I don't know what to do about it because I don't want to provoke her but I'm annoyed and feel I need to do something about it but don't know how to approach it. Any suggestions?

I told her via email about my overdose in 2008 and asked if it was self harm or suicide. No response. Didn't acknowledge it but replied to my other questions. Then I said in the next email: just wanted to know about overdose was it self harm or suicide attempt? Again she replied to other parts of email, no response about suicide or self harm question. I'm getting annoyed at her.

And when I told her about support worker being abusive and threatening as described by a previous post on here "I can throw a stronger punch than you if you were to hit me" and other comments by worker. OT doesn't acknowledge abuse/ unprofessionalism/ offensive comments etc. OT asked :does the worker feel pressured by you to make a PIP written statement? I said no because her comments were before the PIP assessment (2 weeks before) OT says I quoted support worker out of context. No a majority of workers comments were on one day. Anyway my neighbor says report the worker to care agency because worker will be doing it to other people, that other people will be more vulnerable than me unable or too scared to report.Neighbor says worker can't talk to me like that. OT is pathologising me thinking because I used to be aggressive emotional/ outbursts like I deserve crap from the worker? OT asked did you have argument with worker. I said no. And no I haven't ever shown anger aggression at worker. I haven't had an emotional outburst for 5 years and the last one was July 2017 when I ended it with J. I just been thinking I can't rely on anyone to care for me. I have to stand up for myself, cause OT isn't go to do it. Neighbor is right I should complain about worker Please advise, obviously I don't want to upset OT because i really value what she does for me but I'm annoyed at some of the ways she addresses things.
Thanks all xx