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So recently my girlfriend of a year came out and said I’m too clingy. I was a little put off by this because we’ve been together for a year now and this is something that should’ve came up months ago. Anyways she says that I’m always wanting a kiss or too be intimate with her. In my mind I don’t see myself as clingy at all. Is it clingy to want a kiss a few times a day? Or be intimate more than once or twice a month? These things are very important to me and just don’t seem to be as important to her.
Recently we had a “talk” and lately I told her that I’ve had my doubts about our relationship because of this problem. She said she understood and has just been to busy with school, family, money, etc... but in my mind should I always be put at the least priority? I really need some advice on my situation. I feel like if I can’t reach a solution soon that I’m going to end up splitting up with her. Which I don’t want because I still love her. |
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I don't think you sound too clingy. Everyone has needs they need met. It sounds like your needs are different than her needs. I can't tell you what to do, but ask yourself if the limited contact is something you can live with long term. Disagreement now may lead to resentment later.
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I suggest that you draft the following as bullet points.
1. Three things that show that you are are too clingy. 2. Three things that show that you are not too clingy. Your girlfriend should do the the same. Finally, you and she should discuss all points with an open mind. |
![]() ~Christina
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And clingy/not clingy is subjective. You seem to be seeking love from her as a partner yet she does not give you much back and you become disappointed. She may have lost interest. But you still have your right to be disappointed. |
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I’m not sure what you mean |
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So how do I put it back to play mode? I’ve repeatedly had talks with her about my needs. But it always ends up like this. |
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She doesn't seem to need this kind of attention you want to provide. You seem to not need to provide with love, but to have love provided back. You can give her some space to get busy with whatever she has to do. Give it some time. Then you can decide what to do. I'd wait for her to give her part in the relationship if I were you. |
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So you’re saying wait for her too miss me and give her the chance to initiate intimacy |
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If she does not want affection or intimacy, she may have lost interest in the relationship.
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