[dragonphoto]

My wife and I have been married for going on 7 years now but we have known each other for well over 15. We have been seperated for going on a month now because I did not listen to her and get the help that I needed. She tells me now that she is broken and there are some pieces missing. I love her with all my heart and she is a true inspiration to me. She has been there for me and given more than any one person should give in a relationship. The question is did I wait too long? Can I fix what is broken? I want the healing process to start for our relationship just like it has started for my illness. Thank you very much.

[Perna]

Hi dragonphoto, welcome to PsychCentral. Were I you, I'd find a therapist and start getting the help I need pronto to show her you are really interested in working to fix the relationship. But I wouldn't tell her anything/"brag" about or "use" it that way, would just work on making yourself into a man you would like to be like with her.

[dragonphoto]

I was Baker Acted (did it myself) and spent three days in the hospital. While I was there I talked to other people and realized that my problems were not as bad as some of their's. I have been put on medication and I have a therapist to help me with things. I just hope that I have time to fix the things I need to. I want my family to be back the way we used to be. Thank you for your comments.

[Perna]

You can't "compare" problems. Your problems are yours and difficult for you (or you wouldn't have them :-) and that's all that counts. I don't think fixing will be "quick".

Is your wife seeing a therapist for her brokenness? Maybe a marriage counselor would help you both?

[dragonphoto]

Yes she is seeing a therapist and I am going to schedule a meeting for her and me with our pastor at church. Do you think I have waited too long to get the fix that I need?

[Perna]

No, sounds like you're doing well working on it! I hope/think things will work out fine for you. Good luck!

[dragonphoto]

Thank you very much. )

sounds like you are both doing everything you can to fix this breakdown (temporary hopefully).

It's never too late sweetie, please trust me on that one, married for 19 years, rocky road, still have problems but still working on it (though today I feel like throwing plates full of something sticky at him lol).You will fix this if you both love each other enough and it sounds like you do, I wish you luck and care and positive thoughts, keep us posted, keep talking, keep showing your love, if you believe in God he will help you chose the right path and guide you.

Jinnyann xoxoxoxoxoxoxxo