[Eclecticangel34]

I don't mean to sound to forward but an issue is an issue no matter where it's happening. I love my husband but I don't feel the need to have sex everyday. At one time we both seemed happy with once or twice a week. Now he wants it evetyday. So much so that it feels more like a chore than a joy. And since I know it's coming; that moment when he makes his move and is almost always immediately disappointed; I feel stressed.
So I have tried giving in when i'm not up for it and my less responsive behavior upsets him, so then we are both upset. I don't know how to fix this. I feel it's an internal problem with me. I don't want to be expected to do something so personal when I don't want to. That expectation is turning me off.

[Little Moons]

Have you told your husband that you would be more comfortable having sex once or twice a week instead of every day?

I think it is time to have a discussion with your husband. Just because you are partners does not mean he can expect sex every night, and you shouldn't feel obligated to give it to him if you don't want to. Let him know you are not in the mood, and he can always rub one out if he has to. Your husband will survive without daily sex!

[nogoodpoison]

I know how you feel. I have been this way with my husband as well. I didn't want much at all but then was told that the more I did it the more I would want it. So I tried that and our compromise was once a week but not everyday like he wanted. It worked for many years but now for me even once a week is sometimes too much when I'm stressed out and it feels like a chore. If I give in to his pleading then I feel like an object, like I'm not there as someone he is making love to but a means to an end.
I have talked to him about this and it works for awhile but then within a few months it goes right back to the way it was and we have to have a talk again.
My suggestion is to be honest and talk to him, tell him exactly how it makes you feel. There are some men out there that will understand and it will make sense. After that I'm at a loss because I haven't fixed my issues yet.

[~Christina]

I had a live in boyfriend years ago that kept wanting more and more sex daily often morning and night, I was working 2 jobs and being a mom. After a week or so I sat down and told him that I was not going to service his every need.

You do not have to have sex anytime he wants. You can say no.

Couple counseling?