[MickeyCheeky]

I feel like I'm too clingy and needy for other people. Everytime someone shows sympathy for me, I'm grateful, but I'm also worried to lose it and become too paranoid. I also feel like I rely too much on other people for support. That mostly happens online, because I've never had any real friends IRL.. I also feel like I just can't be happy alone.

No one has ever really complained of this to me, but I'm pretty confident that at least someone does think that. I do my best to control it, I really do.. I'm just not sure it's enough.

Hey Mickey, most people need other people. There is no shame in that. Many people have a hard time being alone. We are social creatures and need others. What makes you think you are too clingy? Also, if you lack friendships IRL, it makes sense that you would rely more on your online friendships. And especially those of us who suffer from any kind of mental health issue, well, we all need support. There is also no shame in that.

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you I think you're right. I just don't think it's a good thing to rely too much on others for your own happiness..

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I just don't think it's a good thing to rely too much on others for your own happiness..

True. We do need to find ways to be happy on our own. Perhaps this is something you can work on? Finding things in life that make you happy or content? When I was at my unhappiest, I made a list of all the things in life that gave me happiness. Then I started to focus more on those things and on bringing those things more into my life on a daily and weekly basis.

That being said, it is perfectly OK to also rely on other people for support and socialization.

[Teddy Bear]

I haven't found anything you posted that was too clingy or needy. Keep being yourself

You come off as caring toward everyone on PC! That you send so many positive messages to so many of us is admirable.

IMO be yourself and don't worry about what others think. Do you think you have a tendency to compulsively worry or compulsively post? I find getting out in nature (away from the TV and computer) to have a calming effect on my anxiety. I do a lot of thinking when I walk but it tends to be more insightful than the thoughts that are triggered when I read things on the internet. Not saying it is bad to post--just saying make sure you balance the time you spend online with other activities (I am assuming you are online alot).

You are completely sweet! Love your personality just the way it is!!!!

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you both soo much Yes, I do have a tendency to worry a lot. I'm not very confident in myself , I guess that's why I'm afraid to come off that way.

[Bill3]

How often have people told you IRL or online that you are too clingy or needy?

[MickeyCheeky]

No one has ever actually said it - not that I remember at least. It's just a feeling I get from certain people, mostly IRL...

[Bill3]

Hmm, just from certain people IRL. I wonder if this might be their issue, not your issue...

Some people think they can build themselves up by trying to tear other people down.

I think it might be beneficial to discuss this topic on a thread here. Or if not on a thread, perhaps with someone here who is fair minded and a good listener. It would be interesting and helpful, I think, to learn how others here view the people and situations that concern you.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, no one actually said it explicitly to me - it might be just a feeling I have, although I don't think it is.

Still, thank you for listening to me

[Bill3]

I do think it would be good to talk it over with someone. Do you see a therapist? That would be another idea.

A lot of times what we see in ourselves is quite different from what others see in us. For example, I was never good enough for my mother, and as a result I have tended to believe that I am not good enough at most things I undertake. Therapy helped me see that other people tend to view me much more positively than my mother ever did. Just an example.

[MickeyCheeky]

Yes, I do have a therapist. Perhaps I'll try that way. Or maybe I'll talk to someone here Thank you

[a.l.90]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Thank you both soo much Yes, I do have a tendency to worry a lot. I'm not very confident in myself , I guess that's why I'm afraid to come off that way.

Hey there! I can totally relate with you. I'm super clingy and depend on people for everything. And I'm super needy. I need constant reassurance from my partner and it sucks that it has to be that way. She's been patient and helped me a lot, but I am so insecure that it's starting to destroy our relationship.

I've tried to work on my self esteem and I can feel things getting better but I always fall deep into my insecurities yet again.

Things get rough! But I'm trying to work on myself and trying not to depend on everyone for everything! It's a super hard thing to do, but I just want you to know you aren't alone with these feelings.

[MickeyCheeky]

Sorry to hear you're struggling. It's a good think you're working on it, though. Wish you good luck