My man friend who likes me is being supportive

So, this man who has been really nice to me but we went out only once is still really nice to me. I told him about the man with an alcohol problem and he also dated a woman with the same problem. He is totally understanding. He is nice also. I did not like him when we met initially because I was with a married man. Then, I got emotionally involved with the man with an alcohol problem although this other man asked me out for Christmas. So, now I told him my problems and he is still nice to me. I guess he likes me. I will give him a chance again. I don't have anybody and am not in a relationship or anything. So, we might go out on a date again. He is younger and works at odd jobs here and there. Now, he is a maintenance man for a hospital. He wants to live in the states though so I know this is the reason he likes me partially because I am a US citizen. But, he has always been nice and does not have drinking problem. He is a great cook. He cooks for a yacht club near his home. I always liked him as a person. But, I don't know if I will like him as a man until I see him again. We shall see.

He sounds nice. Just go on a date and see what he's like, but be aware of red flags...Those of us who have been in unhealthy relationships in the past or come from dysfunctional families tend to repeat the dysfunction without knowing it.

Seesaw

If this guy also wants to use you to be able to get status in the US like the last guy, I
Think you might want to reconsider romance with him. Friendship is ok

Good luck!

I am not going to bother this man as I thought I would. Because honestly I like him as a person but not attracted to him as a man. He is nice and sweet too but he was straight forward about wanting to marry someone who could help him obtain a US green card. Thus, he probably is just interested in me for just that. I am naive at times but realize he probably is chasing me for only this reason.

Sounds like you made a GOOD choice..like seesaw said...we sometimes keep picking people that are going to cause dysfunction without knowing it...

It seems your gut had the knowledge that this man probably wanted the green card...and for you to realize that..and make a decision to help yourself vs. helping someone else AGAIN..is HUGE..

I was also going to comment on this post that I thought you were making a mistake and it didn't sound like you were "crazy" head over heels for him..but just settling for him because he was being a good listener.

You want and need more than a good listener in a relationship..and you certainly don't want someone who has clearly stated his intention is to use some US citizen for a pass.