[ReggieBo]

My ex is diabolical at organising anything to do with when he will see our child.

He always leaves it to the last minute, literally the night before saying I'll be round tomorrow at 9am to pick him up.

I told him our sons plans for this month stating the weekends he has plans. I asked him to confirm when he will be seeing him and I've still not heard back. I sent the message on Monday.

This makes me so anxious I could vomit. I never know what's happening until last minute and I'm on edge all the time because of it.

I've tried getting a solicitor to send him letters to get something consistent in place but he just ignored all the letters.

Please help with what I can do, I'm on the brink of tears as I cannot plans our weekend out of fear of he wanting to see our child

Honestly? Plan your weekends as you like. Tell him he has until a certain day to respond and from there your child may or may not be available. No reason to turn your life upside down accomodating him.

[hvert]

Yes, what SadGirl said - live your life the way you want. It's not your job to help him schedule, it's his. If he wants to wait until the last minute, too bad for him if you already have other plans.

[divine1966]

Is there a court order with visitations scheduled? If not, you need one.

[~Christina]

I would certainly get a schedule through the court system.

You do not deserve all this last minute crap