[fringillidae]

Now uh, I'm gonna preface this by saying I'm an alter in a DID system and it's one of my alters that's dating the guy. I've never trusted him since the beginning, but things have gotten worse lately and now he's actually been debating breaking up with the guy.

Also, warning for mentions of pedophilia in the coming paragraphs.

For starters, the boyfriend in question is incredibly morally ambiguous. Prone to stealing. Kind of a kleptomaniac. We've chosen to look past this for a while. And he mentions from time to time that he cannot comment on choices we've made without being rude. Which is... hmm. :/

The main issue right now, though falls into a much worse category, one that is pretty personal to us. The boyfriend has a NSFW sideblog on tumblr and has been reposting pedophilic content (NSFW art of minors). He claims to not have known the age restrictions on what is "considered pedophilia". I don't completely believe him, but he did honestly apologize and erase the content from the blog after an explanation was made to him.

However, we're still exceedingly angry with him for not knowing this to begin with. But, he is also known to lack common sense on a lot of things like this, and we feel like maybe it's not entirely his fault.

I'm honestly pretty pinned on what we should do. We all are.

Our hosts are pretty attached to this guy, though, and it'd break their hearts to separate from him, but I personally think that he's bad for us in a lot of ways. Even they're starting to see the bad. But, we aren't sure how we would even go about breaking up with him. We want to do it gently because we feel not everything here is his fault. But... I don't know.

Based on the info you have given, I would walk away. If he's a klepto, he will likely steal from you. Pedophillia is also pretty straight forward. People should know what is and isn't okay. That would cross serious lines for me. If I was you, I would let this one go.

[fringillidae]

Host here now. I did end up just cutting off all ties with him.

I think this is for the best. I think getting my feelings out on here helped me build up the courage to do it.
Especially seeing confirmation from someone else that our thought processes weren't totally ridiculous.

I'm glad you are taking care of yourself. Are you all okay?

[Crazy Hitch]

It sounds like you've done the right thing. This person sounds like bad news.

Good luck moving forward.

[Erebos]

This isn't about lacking common sense, this guy lacks the ability to see and conform to normal societal boundaries, wether this is a physiological/neurological issue, or an emotional/psychological one, it is unlikely he is going to improve without considerable medical intervention.
This is a long road, with no end, it requires constant vigilance on behalf of the partner, and considerable drive toward self Improvement and self discipline on behalf of the other.
I am 40 this year, and in a relationship with someone who has paraphillias, (not in regards to children) but it is something we both have to keep an eye on and requires me to have an inordinate amount of inner security and self assurance, confidence and strength.

These people damage those around them, not always intentionally, but often without remorse. And without that it is difficult for these people to feel inclined to change.

No one else can make this decision. But I would suggest this isn't a wise or safe choice for anyone.

Good luck.