[HCGW112010]

My mother in law has been my biggest supporter for the last 3 yrs since i was hospitalized she wants me to better more than i want to. I have hurt in so bad in these past 3 yrs, by screaming at her when she is just trying to help because i feel judged by her. she uses her experience in AA recovery and therapy to get over her issues that made her drink. I however feel like she had a choice to get better, while i am stuck with mental health issues for life.
I have bashed her to friends and family because i feel like she is attacking me and i need to vent. I have damaged some of her relationships (ie. with my parents) due to it.

I dont know how to go about fixing it. any advice?

Apologizing would be a good start.

Alcohol use disorder is in the DSM 5 much like the mental illnesses you experience. It is not something one chooses (one does not decide one day to become addicted to alcohol), but one is responsible for making the choice to choose recovery. The same goes for someone with depression or other mental illnesses. One can choose to do nothing about it, or they can seek treatment in whatever form that may be (medication, therapy, exercise, meditation, etc).

Your struggles are not so different from your mother in law's. You two could be supports for each other, rather than adversaries.

[hvert]

I agree re: apologizing. I'd also thank her for her support and sing some of her praises to your friends and family.

Sometimes when people try to help they are annoying, even though they have the best intentions.

[MickeyCheeky]

I agree; start with an apology.