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#26
Jan 20, 2018, 05:22 PM
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 What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Jan 21, 2018, 01:08 AM
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Hm, I'm not sure what you mean by "people watch". It's not like there's a lot of things going on. Or maybe it's just me. Are people constantly editing their profiles, or something?
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Social anxiety and possible Aspergers (undiagnosed, but it helps to let you know to more quickly find a common ground). Life is a journey without a destination. |
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Jan 21, 2018, 09:39 PM
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Then I did it again (watched what I was checking- didn't go to extremes) and then it let me register. It is probably right though. I don't think I have ever been in a state to actually date. I am so messed up! |
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Jan 21, 2018, 09:44 PM
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#30
Jan 21, 2018, 09:47 PM
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I talk to a lot of people in person. It's not just about people not talking to people in person. That's not the reason why we use online dating. The world is a lot different than in the 60s and 70s and it's certainly not about people not talking in person to one another.
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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#31
Jan 22, 2018, 06:20 AM
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I found that OKC was the best site for actually finding people to date. Being free doesn’t mean it’s no good or just for sex, just like having to pay doesn’t guarantee it’s any good (tried the paying sites and was not impressed). I met my current partner on OKC and am very happy with my catch!
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#32
Jan 22, 2018, 08:12 AM
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I found my mate (of 4 years) on Plenty of Fish..I like POF because it has millions of men on it...and the search function lets you change the criteria...lots of selections in the search criteria...men/woman, how many miles away, things they like...don't like....
Very easy to talk to people..the private messaging is great...not like some site where you can't give phone numbers...etc. The most important thing for me about any dating site..is after a couple of correspondence I like to give my phone number...cause I think it is very important to check out our communication style. I have had guys call me and within 5 minutes I don't like the way it is going...like he is talking over me...or I am talking over him...Or I just don't like his voice or his laugh...Depending how I felt..I could sometimes say..Uh...I don't think this is going to work and it has been nice getting to know you...Or if I feel bad for the person and can't say that..then I just ignore them after that....But, the PHONE gives you great insight. Cause when I met my boyfriend that I still talk to and have been with for 4 years (broken up now)...We talked for hours and hours..it was a free flowing conversation with plenty of laughs... I ended up meeting him in person and it went from there. The phone conversation is imperative to me.
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"I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell" (My girlfriend had this ringtone for my phone calls...lol) Bipolar 1 Anxiety Current Medications: Lorazepam Zoloft Abilify Gabapentin 
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Jan 22, 2018, 08:22 AM
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The silver streaks starting to run through my hair are making me antsy though. Seesaw
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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#34
Jan 22, 2018, 08:31 AM
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I was using Match.com and didn't get a single sexual message this go around. Last go around, there were two pervs in a whole sea of men and messages. I think the paid sites are worthwhile, if you can somehow fit it into your budget.
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Jan 22, 2018, 10:01 AM
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Hm, interesting. Despite how it may seem from the outside, it looks like online dating is as much for extraverts as the offline kind. I mean, I read "a sea of messages" and almost get a headache.
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Social anxiety and possible Aspergers (undiagnosed, but it helps to let you know to more quickly find a common ground). Life is a journey without a destination. |
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Jan 22, 2018, 10:13 AM
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I personally only ever used jdate, match and eharmony (the last only briefly as I immediately met my husband). I concluded that I wasn’t getting sexual messages is because I never ever used free sites. That’s why I keep telling people to not use free sites. Otherwise I can’t even guess why I don’t get these messages and others do? I thought if not free sites then could it be something to do with pictures? I never posted full body shots? Only face. No glamour shots just boring selfie? I wonder if there is connection? I don’t know. |
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Jan 22, 2018, 10:21 AM
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I personally can’t stand being on the phone so I hope people don’t judge me as no way I’d be on the phone for hours, unless maybe driving and bored. I don’t have few hours to spare! |
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#38
Jan 22, 2018, 11:29 AM
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This whole paid versus unpaid thing is moot. You can use Match.com without paying, you can use OKC without paying, and both of those have paid subscription services too.
As far as the sexual messages go, I am surprised to hear women who don't get them, as OKC has just changed its messaging system specifically because women had to deal with this so much. Every woman I know IRL who has used online dating has had to deal with this too. Most of my profile pics are selfies, except for a couple of full body shots, just to show what I look like, but they are in no way sexy pics, no cleavage or anything, no bikini wear, etc. The one full length shot is from a work event in which I'm wearing a very conservative full-length dress. Like I said, it's pretty much the nature of the beast. It doesn't make it any less frustrating.
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What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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