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Jan 24, 2018, 02:44 PM
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I have been reflecting on love languages lately, and its something that I have never given much thought to while in a relationship. My last relationship we had different ones while some of the same. For instance I love quality time and affection (touch and being close). I realized with what I wanted it what I was projecting, while she like words of affirmation and reminders on verbally that I still loved her. Although deep down I knew this but it didnt resonate deep down. I hardly remember a time when I was told "I love you" when I was younger. I never heard my grandfather tell my grandmother, but thet were married for 60 years and she knew he did and they had a amazing marriage.
It totally seems like in todays world it almost critical to the success if not the most important thing in a relationship or marriage. This may be a good discussion. If there are different love language then how tough is it to adapt and concsiously keep that in mind? Or does it just fit for a LTR |
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Jan 24, 2018, 05:32 PM
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Love languages... Don't forget the different dialects and the slang ones. I would propose there are also alien versions, like Klingon... (Sorry, I just couldn't resist.) Now that you're aware they exist, does it change how you interact with your partner? Are you more conscious of the language, its inflection, how it's best expressed? Does that knowledge influence who you really are because, instead of being natural, you consider how to change your responses to ones which resonate more with your partner?
I'm not saying any of it is wrong, but I have to wonder... If you need to dissect the expression and acceptance of love, to determine if it exists, is it really love, or just an equation?
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Jan 24, 2018, 07:43 PM
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You have some valid questions. When we look at compatibility and how it relates to love languages, many simply just write it off without even learning what they need. I've always said its not about finding the perfect partner, but knowing your partner perfectly. I think that is key to keep the intimacy "between the ears". Everyone had certain needs in a certain way, and having a better understanding of them, is all part of that "equation". Everyone is unique in their own way, and every relationship has its own dynamic.
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