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I noticed that in general I hate attention from people, I don't know why I just dont like when others ask me how are you, or are concerned for me. I hate it to the point I feel bad. But I noticed recently that I always like when male authority figures (like teachers, therapists...) ask me how I am or show concern for me. I like to talk about my problems with them. When I was in high school I fantasized to show my self harm scars to one of my favorite male teachers. While for example with others I hated the idea of showing scars. It's like with those male figures, I want to concern them and I like their attention. It seems a bit weird for me.
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How was your relationship with your father?
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He was very distant emotionally, also aggressive, he was there for material things (like giving me money, bringing me to school) but he never showed affection, always criticized me and hurted me a lot. so is all of this because of my relationship with him?
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There are arguments in favor of a female therapist. An argument in favor of a competent male therapist would be that the phenomenon would occur right in the room, and can then be examined and worked on in real time.
Evidently though you have had male therapists. What sort of of therapeutic progress, or lack of therapeutic progress, did you observe in yourself during your time with them? |
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This does sound like a "father figure" thing like what has been mentioned. Something struck in my head though while reading this, but when an Alpha Dog comes into a room, the rest of the dogs kind of follow suit, and listen intently. (Totally not saying you are a dog in any way, just my crazy brain reasoning).
My dad was a total totalitarian and I completely rebelled, and honestly every relationship I have entered, I actually didn't listen or didn't respect the guy unless he was aggressive, with some authority over men, dominant, and even somewhat of a jerk. (Stereotypical behavior of wanting the "bad boy"). It isn't my fault though, because the love and approval my father never showed me that I desperately wanted, directly related to how I related to men, later in life.
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