Friend problem / social isolation

Thank you MacD! I do agree with this. I think there are levels of friendship. She is not a close friend. Even if we talk about meaningful stuff when we get together. It is true, that she is not there for me a lot of the time.

I feel good about this though. It seems resolved for now. She apologized, and I am not putting in effort. We are meeting this week for tea. So I have a friend date with her. It will be nice. I know her M.O. though, and I can pull back as much as I want since I know.

I go thru periods of bipolar depression where I isolate. During that one, I don't respond to emails or texts. Sometimes for months.

I try to explain but, friends get irritated I can tell.

I met with her today for lunch. It was ok. She talked a lot about this new guy she's seeing and how "happy" she is about it. Not exactly the conversation I wanted to be having with someone on my single valentine's day.

But whatever. I feel good in the sense that I don't feel a deep connection with her and that's ok. I don't have to seek her out.